Why is it so hard to have friends who don't just abandon you the minute you have a rough time?

@NiftyWhite I think they mean "I'll be there so long as you accept the help in a way that is only convenient to me".

@KuroNeko It def has a limited warranty that’s something like:

Expires in 2 weeks or whenever your friend gets tired of dealing with you (whichever comes first) and is not subject to advance notice which may result in your friend, ghosting away, not returning calls/texts or being suddenly and overwhelmingly “busy” . Upon expiration, all previous friendship commitments and duties will be revoked and you are expected to self regulate and independently problem solve at your own mental expense. Warranty not transferable to other friends who may or may not have compatible warranties of their own.

@NiftyWhite it's very common with female friends that if you aren't in contact for a little while, you are suddenly no longer friends. This is something that doesn't seem to bother the men as much.

@KuroNeko i have plently of female friends that i meander in and out of their lives. I have some steady friends on a more regular basis. They are the ones who i expected would stay around and help me during difficult times but they ghosted.

@NiftyWhite I do better with the meanderers but it's a big job trying to fill those people in on what's happening in your life when you do finally talk though.

@KuroNeko those are just casual relatnsps. But when there’s a death in the family, a divorce, or any other stressful event, your closest friends should be there and stay by your side like they claimed they would always do.

@NiftyWhite I have yet to find those then. I will keep looking.

@KuroNeko Spoiler alert: They don’t help that much either.

@NiftyWhite I am starting to see that