As my husband and I were fawning all over Mia because it’s her 3rd birthday my MIL says

“If you’re like this with Mia Imagine if you had had a little girl! you’d both be besides yourselves!”

She immediately killed a moment of joy for me.

Daniels 5th heavenly birthday was just 2 weeks ago, and we got Mia 6 months postpartum from my losing my boy/girl twins 3 years ago (we got her in June) but today is her birthday.

I was so angry but I had no words. I walked away. It’s the best thing I could do.

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NickiHijab · F

😕That was very insensitive. I'm sorry. I know grief has no timeline and I think it's okay to let yourself feel whatever it is you're feeling. I just wish your MIL was mindful of this.

KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F

@NickiHijab she needs to go. She needs to go ASAP. Because I’m gonna lose my shit on her one day, I can only bottle up so much crap

NickiHijab · F

@KaysHealingPath I get it. You shouldn't have to put up with this toxicity either. Have you mentioned this to your husband?

KaysHealingPath · 36-40, F

@NickiHijab he noticed right away. This isn’t the first time either.
He told her she needs to stop because I won’t always walk away and that that was the only thing I could do at that moment, he told her that I’m getting tired of it and next time I may not be able to just walk away.

NickiHijab · F

@KaysHealingPath I guess she knows what she's in for now. I hope she actually considers his words and starts showing you a little respect.