Does parent abandonment effect more in childhood or adulthood?

I think childhood because my mom abandoned us when I was a child (age 5), and she wanted to have her own life and only thinks of herself. I haven't seen her since I was 20. I'll be 30 next year so it will be 10 years. She lives on the same state. My brother wants NOTHING to do with her and refuses to be nice to her. When I bring up mom, he gets hostile changes the subject. He doesn't care.
Anyways when I see people with their loving, amazing mothers, I feel like shunning them and hatred. My mom had so many chances to be in our lives but she NEVER takes them! She never returns my calls when I call her or wishes us a happy birthday.

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DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

Both. It affects your relationship with everyone else you ever care about for the rest of your life.

NotValid · 36-40, F

@DearAmbellina2113 Even when they abandon you as an adult?

DearAmbellina2113 · 41-45, F

@NotValid maybe not

raysam363 · 36-40, F

That's definitely up for debate, though I would say the most certain thing is that in childhood there is a more emotional response to that particular trauma, while in adulthood it's more passive and affects future relationships.

hippyjoe1955 · 70-79, M

I think a person never gets over it and has abandonment issues throughout his/her life. It effects the ability to bond in a permanent relationship.

Montanaman · M

Sounds like my ex 😔
My daughters were 3 and 5.

My wife raised them, and she was only 18 at the time, married her at 19.
Raised them through hs

alan20 · M

As I've found, mothers can be incredibly selfish. My siblings think I was the favoured one. But it was my heart she broke by her determination to destroy the love of my life.

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