Have you ever fallen for someone who’s staying with an ex for the sake of their kids?!

Hi,
My current relationship is troubled. My man has kids with his ex wife and they currently live together. He pretends to be with her for the sake of his kids. He has strongly emphasized that he will never marry her again. He just came to me expressing how he does have feelings for me and how he was wrong for keeping that from Me based on his situation. He stays with her for financial reasons and due to his kids so I kind of understand. But there are healthier ways to coparent. I know his feelings for me are true bc his mom always asks how I’m doing and his eldest daughter really wants to meet me. I need more advice rather than “run” or “leave him” or he’s “playing you” bc there’s situations out there that are harder than the norm.... I’m not sure what to do. My feelings run deep for him too.

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in10RjFox · M

I have been in the situation of the man .. and I can say he is genuine for he is handling the situation and acting with responsibility. If he was a jerk he would have dumped his family and jumped on board with you as if you are the only one loves and to prove that he is faithful to you.

Don't worry about his ex.. as the relationship becomes that of siblings.. Relationship with my ex is like that.. like a sister she is in contact and helped me in raising our children who are with me..

But you need to decide for yourself whether you see him as a good lover and partner. You seem to have accepted because he has feelings for you.. and you just went by it. So your part of the story as to how you met, developed attraction etc.. matterd to you more. Important is if your future plans.

If you are confident that you can find a better partner, then you can just keep this as for current as intimate friendship and just let it fade.

Mom n daughter liking you is their need for a person in future.. But your call should be based on your reasons..