Have you ever fallen for someone who’s staying with an ex for the sake of their kids?!

We make time for things that are important to us. Apparently his wife is important to him or he wouldn't be living in her home. The wife and children do not have to be a package deal. Wait and see what he works out but do not spend too much time waiting.

Run FAST! Don't look back just RUN!

I have been in the situation of the man .. and I can say he is genuine for he is handling the situation and acting with responsibility. If he was a jerk he would have dumped his family and jumped on board with you as if you are the only one loves and to prove that he is faithful to you.

Don't worry about his ex.. as the relationship becomes that of siblings.. Relationship with my ex is like that.. like a sister she is in contact and helped me in raising our children who are with me..

But you need to decide for yourself whether you see him as a good lover and partner. You seem to have accepted because he has feelings for you.. and you just went by it. So your part of the story as to how you met, developed attraction etc.. matterd to you more. Important is if your future plans.

If you are confident that you can find a better partner, then you can just keep this as for current as intimate friendship and just let it fade.

Mom n daughter liking you is their need for a person in future.. But your call should be based on your reasons..

No, no, no. I would close the door on that. Kids are great but they shouldn't be used as a pawn to keep the relationship going. He really needs to focus on the true heart he is in love with, which could very well be you. Just my opinion

I can only tell you that the scales are weighted heavily on the ‘no future’ side.

Even if he’s telling the truth - a man who did not have deep connections to his children, maybe his ex, and all the other things like finances and family, would not be living with his ex-wife.

Suppose he did make the decision to come to you - would you be willing to try to make up for all those things?

Well, children are the most important thing in a parent's life. So, it's understandable that he does everything because of his children. But that is not the only way to do that; there are many ways besides that. It is not necessary to stay with an ex because of financial reasons. He can live you and still can deal with the financial things of his family. Both of them need to make a plan that they will be separate but still can provide each other financially.

For example, they live separate; for the financial, he will provide the money every year or every month to his family, and will come to see his children every weekend. No need to live together.

Simple as that.

I need more advice rather than “run” or “leave him” or he’s “playing you”...sounds like you want to stick your head in the sand and already know what you should do but do not like the answer

Please don't be fooled by men. Be careful. A man will rarely leave his wife.

A persons actions speak the loudest. If he wanted you, he’d leave her. P.S. for anyone else that may relate to that man’s troubles. Coming from a person who has closely worked with hundreds of young children over many years. Your children are aware of FAR more than is usually noticed. I’ve had so many children tell me about their parents marital problems it seems crazy. Bottom line 100% of children given the option would rather come [i]from[/i] a “ broken” home, than [i]live[/i] in a “broken” home. The idea of staying for the kids really never ends up being the best thing for the kids.