To older men, explain to me why you think young women should try older men.

I have often been approached by older men either flirting or being overly friendly with me. It is quite clear what they are doing and thinking. It comes off as really creepy most of the time. I keep getting suggested by older men to date older men. Funny thing is most of the time their reasons are creepy. So I want to hear what yall have to say.

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Ash93 · 56-60, M

Now that I've thought about this more, I think part of the issue is the disconnect between how young women see older men and how they see themselves. For a lot of us in mid-life, we don't think of ourselves as old or that our sexuality is past the due date. So for some, we don't (or simply refuse to) recognize that younger women generally see us as outside the category of "sexually available and interesting".

hales · 26-30, F

@Ash93 Those that are in their mid-life shouldn't think they are old or their sexuality is past the due date. But that doesn't mean they should go flirting with any women that is 18+.

Ash93 · 56-60, M

@hales I wasn't speaking in terms of "shoulds", but in terms of understanding why some older men feel free to send sexual signals to younger women who do not welcome them (because there is a disconnect between how older men see themselves and how young women see them). Because let's face it, that's why it's "creepy" when older men do it. If human psychology was a little different and 19-year-olds naturally welcomed such signals, then it would simply be ordinary. But because that is not the case, it feels wrong. Most older men are aware of this and so do not engage in that kind of interaction (regardless of any actual attraction they might feel). But if a man does not understand it (or worse, doesn't care), then that's when you get creepy flirting.