How do I not be overwhelmed?

I need some support. some comfort. Last month when I spoke with somebody I realized that it's my parents constant belittling me from when I was young that I get overwhelmed quickly now, because even though their words were lies and I never believed it how "You're a failure" "You're never going to succeed" etc. All these I knew were wrong, but as an adult, still lies, but I get overwhelmed because internally something in me feels "What if I fail" or "I'm not sure I can do it" even though, I know I can do it, but there's a thing inside that.. feels otherwise x.x. You know what I mean? Does anyone have any words of wisdom that might help me break this? Please let me know

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greenmountaingal · 70-79, F

I've been there. You can fight this--and win.

Talk back to your thoughts. When your thoughts suggest you are not capable, say something to yourself that states otherwise.

Make fun of those old bad self-images your parents put into your thinking. Find them ridiculous. Make up jokes about them. Think of funny nicknames for the bullies and detractors in your life.

Remind yourself of all the times you have handled something well. If you need to, make a list of things you've handled well and a list of things you have accomplished and read it over when you have those doubtful low confidence moments.

gol979 · 41-45, M

Not words of wisdom but the tenets of Buddhism could help you work out a different way to think. Shantideeva Buddhism specifically......helped me out a little and I only read briefly about the ideas

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