Would you care?
[c=#7700B2][b]If people didn't wish a happy birthday on your birthday. If my mom says it I'm good. Anybody else is just a bonus. [/b][/c]
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indyjoe 路 56-60, M
@Peaches You're right, no matter how long it's been going on and no matter how used to it you've gotten it still hurts and make you angry. I never forget theirs (birthdays) or even anniversary, holidays, mother's/father's day, and so on...but it's never reciprocated. I've come to realized that this is something I just have to live/deal with and I'll never be free of it until the day of their passing comes.
indyjoe 路 56-60, M
@Peaches I can respect that, I've thought of doing that myself. But for me it's a bit more complicated. There is an army of people who just think the world of them and that turn entire communities against me if I were to do that especially now that they are getting up in age and into poor health. Most of them already think my brother is a better son than me as it is, it's just the way they've built it up for years. I just keep my distance as much as possible and allow things to go on as they are because I know it won't be too many more years. I don't claim my "brother" already, but once they are gone, so is he. I will put all of this totally behind me, never to look back. Time is on my side now.
Peaches 路 F
@indyjoe Well I can have some understanding if they are much older, but if they've always done it I'd be glad they were GONE when they go! 馃槖That's how I felt about my mother. I have a sister like your brother, mom died and I keep her out of my life now, I was so happy she moved to another state to be closer to her kids, I bet they are going insane with her there, haha!馃ぃ
indyjoe 路 56-60, M
@Peaches Honestly...I WILL be glad when they are gone and it over. I don't want anything to happen to them, but when they do pass it will be a huge relief. I hold onto what little I have because I don't want to end up regretting not trying. My "brother" is another story...he is not my flesh and blood, there has never been any real relationship between us at all, he is not my brother. I only tolerate him when I absolutely have to for their sake. But when they're gone, so is he. I will claim no "kinship". When people ask me how's my brother, I plan on saying to them "I don't have a brother" (and I wouldn't be lying).
indyjoe 路 56-60, M
@karysma I don't treat him like a brother because he never treated me like one. He has acted like I was the "intruder" and he was the only child...and I only have my parents; to blame for that because they are the ones who favored him and treated me as 2nd class. He still does this to this day...he is a 47 year old spoiled child. When we've gone to holiday family gatherings, he barely even speaks to me even when I am cordial to him. When my wife met him she didn't like him much either. There has just never been any relationship between us. I know all I've said sounds like I'm just not trying, but believe me what little tiny bit of a "relationship" with my parents that exists is only because of me swallowing my pride and making every effort I could...not because of anything they have done. And that has been severely damaged again because of my dad's indescretion with my wife.
indyjoe 路 56-60, M
@karysma That's a fair thing to say....I'm not asking anybody to judge anything. A question was asked and I answered. The details given through responses were not even originally intended. I don't even like to talk about it much (that's the most detail about it I've ever given). I told the truth, I don't make up things about people, especially if it shows them in a dim or bad light. This is all I'm going to say on the matter, it's mostly in the past and what is done is done (it can't be undone).