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I have no survival instinct when it comes to men.

While I tell everybody else to be careful, I always like to assume the best about people.
I tell people I walk alone at night around here and they say I'm crazy. When I'm with girls and we need to take a taxi I'm always the one who ends up in the front seat.
Maybe it's because I've been lucky so far to have not been harassed.
But one night I was returning from the train station alone and I took the bus with just 3 other people. I went off at my station and didn't notice a guy that did too. But as I was walking I realized he was behind me. Of course my brain was telling me he's just going to his own place while I'll go to the dorm and it will be fine. But then he turned to the street of the dormitory just like me. I went inside and I could see he would come too but I thought he wouldn't come there if he wasn't a student, right? But for some reason I didn't think he was one either. Then I passed by the reception and thought okay, this is the last test, if he turns to the direction I turn to he's a creep because it's rare that somebody would go to the building on the right. But he turned right and I was for real scared this time. I was hoping I would take the elevator before he would reach me but no, he was there and entered the elevator with me. I was going on the 5th floor while he pressed the button for the 3rd floor so I felt calm like I'm going to get rid of him soon. BUT the elevator decided to get stuck for some brief seconds past the 2nd floor. I really accepted that this was the end because this had never happened before. I thought he must have done something on purpose. Then we looked at each other and I said "Maybe it wasn't a good idea to take the elevator" and did an awkward laugh until he finally got out on the 3rd floor and he just said goodbye.
I was so relieved that it was nothing but I keep thinking how tf you as a man get into an elevator with a woman alone after walking behind her for at least 8 minutes. Like she will be afraid?? I'd like to think if I were a man I would have waited or something. Then again I don't blame them for not living the same way as us.
ineedadrink · 51-55, M
Since I'm a guy, and a tall one at that, I'm always very conscious of appearing as a threat to a woman. I totally am not, but given the circumstances you describe I would not have gotten the elevator with you.
@ineedadrink Exactly yes.
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@ineedadrink thank you! That's the sensible thing to do!
Ryannnnnn · 31-35, M
Yeah it's a weird one. Like it used to bother me when women would see me at night and cross the street but I don't take it personal anymore. I'm a fast walker so if I'm behind a girl at night I usually make it a point to cross or i hum some stupid song so they're just like "oh he's just a goof".

It's unfortunate but yeah it's the way it is. I used to be super care free and naive when I was younger, walking around at silly oclock AM until the day where I go robbed and jumped by 4 guys. I don't go out at that time now because it's silly and theres no point but a lot of peeps don't know until it happens. So yeah just having situational awareness is good and avoiding situations is the best defence.

Sometimes even though I can look after myself if something happens, if I see a group of drunk people I'll still maybe go onto a busier street just to be safe. I've met girls that go with just their girl friend to a nightclub until 2-3am and they tell me about how they got assaulted or followed, and I'm like well yeah that's a naive and dumb idea because even though it shouldn't happen it does, so why put yourself in that realm of possibilities in the first place.
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@Ryannnnnn it's so scary what you went through... You're right we should all be more careful, because if it happens it will be too late.
I understand how uncomfortable you must of been. I find it hard to trust anyway. Incidents in my life made it that way. I always try to give benefit of doubt though. Worked hard at that. But one evening walking out alone i noticed this tall guy walk out behind me out from the corner of my eye. It was dark and he was following behind me. I slowed a little hoping he would go around me. He didn't. He just slowed. So i then moved over to the side to give more room to go around me and slowed more..he slowed more. At this point I could barely breathe. I was wondering do i just speed at speed walk see what happens? Or just come to a stop? My feet decided for me. I came to a complete stop. 2 of my fingers on my left hand curled into like a claw like position. I instantly thought about what a police officer had told me when i was a child..if I ever was cornered and couldn't get away. Go for the eyes. Anyway he just looks at me as he goes by then walks faster.
I have no idea. I dont know why he couldn't tell he was freaking me out. I'm sure it was pretty obvious
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@Bexsy idk what it is really. Do they lack social skills, emotional intelligence or do they simply live in their own world... but they sure are lucky af.
I mean I'm lucky too, by society's standards. But I think I could tell if I would creep someone out.
I used to be the same. I was quite trusting of people. Stupidly so, but if I see someone in distress, I usually check to see if they're okay. Looking back, I've definitely had moments that went ok but could've gone bad.
I remember being in a taxi and seeing some guy running in front of the car out of nowhere to catch our attention and it was a close call. The driver swerved around him and I turned to look at the guy who was trying to get us to stop. He looked panicked. It was around 11pm. I really don't know why I thought it'd be good idea to go check up on him but that's exactly what I did. When I walked up to him, I noticed his clothes were torn and his clothes were covered in blood. I asked him if he was ok. I was worried for him and also myself tbh because no one else was around and this guy could've done anything. He told me he got jumped by a group of guys and I asked him if he wanted me to call an ambulance for him. He refused and said the blood was mainly theirs.. Then I asked him if he wanted me to call him a taxi so he could get home and he said no because he only lived around the corner.
At this point I figured there wasn't much else I could do and I certainly wasn't gonna walk him home so I told him to stay safe and then made sure to walk around the longer way because I didn't wanna turn my back to him.

I've had experiences of being followed all the way to my sisters house and then the stranger waiting outside and I had my niece with me too so that one freaked me out more because I was in protective mode.

Another time, I was nearly pushed back into moving cars by a guy who stopped to talk and was moving in closer with me clearly moving back from him. If my friend didn't pull me away from the edge of the pavement, I would've definitely been clipped by the car. On top of that he held onto my arm and wouldn't let go until I shouted for him to get off me and that's just to name a few.
I am from the old school of hard knocks,,,lived on the west coast for some years,,in San Frisco it was the women a man had to watch,,it happen to me but it was the other way round,,I went in to a elevator a woman or a trans gender person,,pulled a gun demanded my wallet,,so i hand it to her she got off the elevator she was gone,,but it was a fake wallet with play money and fake id cards,,it pays to watch your back man or woman,,
Nanori · F
Shit that's scary... Tho I'm like that too, sometimes I do similar things and then a few days later I remember it and think damnnnnnn I was very lucky those guys were harmless.
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@Nanori I just like to hit people
Nanori · F
@HannibalAteMeOut me too, I hit them while encouraging them
dimfok · 22-25, M
@HannibalAteMeOut I do similar things. Now when do I get hit?

(Παρένθεση: Όχι δεν το κάνω χαχα. Μια φορά εχω τρομάξει ανθρωπο αλλα ήταν καθαρα επειδη ειμαι ατσουμπαλος....)
He definitely should at least apologize or something even if he didn't mean to scare you.
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@PiecingBabyFaceTogether I think he was too innocent to think that far, or too stupid hahah
eMortal · M
Bottom line is, he didn’t give a crap about what was happening to you.
Men know when a woman is scared, he just chose not to accommodate it.
OnePatheticClown · 51-55, M
Oh. At least he didn't offer to show you his new chainsaw and hockey mask...

He probably was drunk or too oblivious to think much of it...
Chelsiegirl · 46-50, T
I avoid situations where i would be harassed.. you never know if someone will be bad or good.. pretty much i stay home all the time..
Justmeraeagain · 56-60, F
He probably had no reason to think he should wait if he was just going about his business.
deadgerbil · 26-30
Not safe for subs
empanadas · 31-35, M
Honestly some dudes are just obviously. However, now he knows what floor you are on and where you stay.
HannibalAteMeOut · 22-25, F
@empanadas hahah I thought of that too. But I was like since nothing happened now, it's not going to happen another time either. Maybe that's my own toxic way of thinking. I'm one of those people who think "this won't happen to me".
Anyway I don't live there anymore.

 
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