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What should I really make of this?

So my ex-wife has been listed in the Navy for a while now and she was on assignment for the past couple of months. She came back about a month ago and have been staying at my house because that's where our kids live.

We got divorced 5 years ago because I caught her in our bed with some dude. After a very messy divorce, we opted to remain friends and maintain a healthy relationship for the kids sake and that we did. Since recently, our relationship have grown extremely close since our daughter met in a minor car accident and we have been consoling each other constantly. Anyways last Wednesday night, we were in the living room after dinner and she told me that hurting me is and always will be the biggest regret off her entire life and she wish she could swing a magic wand and erase it. I laughed and told her just forget about it that's in the past and I'm glad we remained friends.

The next day she came and asked if it was at all possible for us to reconcile and mend our broken relationship and I just froze..literally. I stood there and looked at her for about 5 minutes not saying a thing. Our 8 year old then walk-in and interrupted us so I told her I would talk to her later. I just don't know what to say and I honestly don't know how to feel about all this. I mean, this woman hurt me beyond what words could ever explain but I was able to pick myself up and respect her as the mother of my children and maintain a healthy and respectful relationship with her. I honestly have never thought about her romantically since the divorce. I just don't know what to make of all this
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Picklebobble2 · 56-60, M
They say when thrown a question that phases you, your first instinctive response is probably the right one.

If you hadn’t ever considered reconciliation I suspect neither had she. Until now.

So that would be my first question. Why now ?

Of course only you know her well enough to make any kind of judgment on her response to that but if you’re honest, are there any conditions under which you’d consider taking her back ?

Forgetting the past (inexcusable to my mind) what could she do or say that would make you consider reconciliation ?