Why are some people so brutally blunt and insensitive about death of loved ones?

My mom got killed by a drunk driver last Wednesday so four days ago and I AM DEVASTATED. My dad is heartbroken and so are my brothers. My close friend bluntly told me, "Look everyone DIES ok?! People die so there's no reason for you to be sad! You can't be sad all the time. We're ALL going to die and she is dead. Get a grip, put your big girl panties on and move on. Sorry, but there is no point of being sad all the time about your dead mommy."
My guy friend said, "Look once someone is dead, their dead. Can't wish for them to come back. Besides your mom won't wanna come back. I don't mean to sound harsh but who wants to go back and suffer? Stop crying, you're 31. You don't need mommy anymore. Buck up will you?" And shoved me hard and stormed off. I MISS THE HELL OUTTA MOM. My dad said, "In heartbroken but we still gotta keep going. No use to walk around depressed. She isn't coming back."
My dad wasn't mean but why were the others mean?! I laid in bed all weekend.

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Allelse · 36-40, M

Your close friend is a cunt, get rid of them and find a new close friend.

abe182 · 46-50, M

@Allelse I second that

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Allelse · 36-40, M

@abe182 🤜🤛

Allelse · 36-40, M

@EmotionalMotherlessWoman1988 They are. Now you listen to me, you grieve, grieve for you, grieve for what you've lost and remember it is your right. Take the time, be kind to yourself, care for yourself the way you would care for somebody who just lost their mother. Love yourself and if you feel down then be down, you want to cry then cry, you want to get angry and rage at the world then you do it. I'm so sorry you lost your Mummy. And your 'close friend' is a piece of shit.

Byron8by7 · M

@Allelse @abe182 @EmotionalMotherlessWoman1988 Any true friends would not speak to you in such a way. Your father is grieving, too; he is trying to make the best out of a terrible situation. Try to find new friends once you get through this. My sympathies once again. Take care as well as you can.