@VTinlandsea this is my take with my life, I always believe that a "no" to a direction is made for there is some unfinished business that if I were to follow through with that direction ... it wouldn't be sustainable?
So some block occurs until I'm done.

That isn't to say your feelings aren't valid of course. Maybe talk to your sister about it? Express it, take it off your chest?

@Boeing Oh there was plenty of "talking" at the time

@Bumbles what you do is go to maui get married and post it on social.

@Adrift SW is the extent of my social media.😁

@Bumbles Me too.
I guess it would have to be a postcard then either that or just not say anything and see how long it takes peopleto notice..

@Bumbles There's nothing "not to get", me and my wife were both working two jobs and had very little free time. My sister took it on herself to invite people, arrange the food, the music everything. We didn't know what was going on behind the scenes until we showed up at the venue expecting just a very few of our closest family members and was greeted with over a hundred people......that I was expected to pay for their meals, and drinks (this was supposed to be non alcohol). Believe me I hit the roof!

@VTinlandsea Like a surprise party? So, the idea was no one would tell you?

@Bumbles No I think the idea was "we were too busy to plan a real wedding" so my sister gave us the kind of wedding that "people would be expecting" I guess that means big and stupidly expensive.