When my Fiance and I were discussing our wedding, he expressed he wanted only his mom and dad there and he expects the same for me, just my mom, step dad, and siblings.
Which offends me because I don’t mind a “small wedding” but he had his friends and extended family at his wedding with his first wife. It makes me feel like his wedding with me isn’t as special. I want the whole experience, I want to feel like I’m special too.
I want all the people I love and he loves to celebrate the special day. Is it not as special to him as it is to me because I’m just the second wife?
I am looking for sympathy NOT criticism. 🙏💯
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@MrSmooTh you’re a man, you wouldn’t understand. Women love extravagant things and wanting to share it with everyone we love. I shouldn’t be denied happiness because he already had a first marriage. This is MY first marriage and I want to make beautiful memories with EVERYONE that matters to me, that included friends and extended family. I want to feel like I’m important in his life and him not wanting to be sharing that with the rest of his loved ones hurts my feelings. If he truly loves me, he should prioritize my feelings.
@666Maggotz But if you're wondering if someone truly loves you, its probably not a good idea to get married until you are 100% sure. Divorce is expensive and nerve racking.
@MrSmooTh I am sure he loves me. You’re not getting it, it’s not that I am insecure about his love but I want the celebration. I love extravagant things and this is my special day.
@666Maggotz but you said "if he truly loves me." I feel like that should all be worked out by the time marriage enters the equation, but then again this is why Im single and relationships make no sense to me.
@MrSmooTh I didn’t mean that as doubt towards his love, it’s my desire to have him be on the same level as me. His love is not intense enough right now, I want to give him the chance to increase his intensity because I want to be loved harder (refer to my other post about romance fading).
I am autistic. I struggle with understanding my own emotions and it can take me a really long time on how to verbalize it. I was literally nonverbal until I was 5 years old. I like to come to SW to try and figure out how to express myself so then when I talk to my bf about this I won’t hurt his feelings by being too brash.
@666Maggotz You should go with the truth. Just explain how its the biggest day of your life and you want more people to be there. That's not that brash.
