When my Fiance and I were discussing our wedding, he expressed he wanted only his mom and dad there and he expects the same for me, just my mom, step dad, and siblings.
Which offends me because I don’t mind a “small wedding” but he had his friends and extended family at his wedding with his first wife. It makes me feel like his wedding with me isn’t as special. I want the whole experience, I want to feel like I’m special too.
I want all the people I love and he loves to celebrate the special day. Is it not as special to him as it is to me because I’m just the second wife?
@666Maggotz You should go with the truth. Just explain how its the biggest day of your life and you want more people to be there. That's not that brash.
@InstructHer Yes 😭 he has to think of my needs too. I want to feel like I’m special and every girl dreams of the perfect wedding. It’s not fair to deny me that because his first marriage didn’t work out.
@daydeeo not yet. I’m autistic and struggle with expressing myself. When he mentioned that, it caught me off guard and I didn’t have the words for how I felt. That’s why I use SW to practice explaining myself to people before I actually do it so it comes off correctly.
@666Maggotz I understand that completely. When you do explain how it makes you feel, try to do it without condemning him, you don't want him to become defensive. You just want to make him understand how it makes you feel. You did a good job of explaining it here. If he doesn't understand, or worse yet, doesn't care, then I guess you have a clue as to why his first marriage didn't work out. Good luck.
