Going to Thanksgiving or not?

I have a Thanksgiving to go to with my 5 cousins . We grew up together next door to each other. These cousins and I don't see eye to eye with a lot of things. When we don't see eye to eye they tend to discuss it between themselves and then they come to me to tell me what they think. I feel they gang up on me.
And there's no one to stick up for me. A recent argument took place a few weeks ago. Didn't really come to an agreement. So I know when I show up, it will be the topic of conversation. Its won't just be jus my 5 cousins. There will also be their significant others and their kids whom some are adults now. They all may get there early to discuss the situation as a group before I get there. I don't really want to go, but they invited me like they do every year. What should I do?

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HappyCamper74 · M

Not seeing eye to eye on a topic and the confrontation that follows isn't the true issue. Them not realizing that people have different opinions on topics is the issue. Being able to agree to disagree, especially with family . I don't blame you for standing up for yourself. But common civility and accepting that everyone doesn't feel exactly the same about everything, and still being able to have a loving respect towards others is very important.
After all, this is your family. Extended family, yes. But, in times of need family is very important to have someone to lean on.
Whatever your choice, I'm sure you will make the right decision. Just try to stay as close as possible, not just seeing each other at funerals. Best of luck and Happy Thanksgiving

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@HappyCamper74 Their support is like a cheap wish item.

HappyCamper74 · M

@Queendragonfly all families are different. Best of luck

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

@HappyCamper74 Yes, but hers sounds like a punishment, not a holiday.

HappyCamper74 · M

@Queendragonfly she asked for options. I gave mine. It's different from yours, and that's your right.
But, she also said that this is the only Thanksgiving she will have. Thanksgiving should be a time to spend with family or loved ones, not spent alone.

melissa001 · 56-60, F

@HappyCamper74 thank you.

HappyCamper74 · M

@melissa001 my pleasure. I know it wasn't really helpful, but it is something to think about. If you do go, just draw the line and let it be known you just want to enjoy family time and not talk about the things that upset you.

melissa001 · 56-60, F

@HappyCamper74 I've been keeping the peace for so many years, Im just tired. I've tried to rely on them and I've helped them with whatever they need. The story of me and my cousins is too long to get into but thank you for your opinion.

melissa001 · 56-60, F

@HappyCamper74 if only were that easy. But I still thank you for comments.

HappyCamper74 · M

@melissa001 my pleasure. Enjoy your Thanksgiving however you choose to celebrate.