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Going to Thanksgiving or not?

I have a Thanksgiving to go to with my 5 cousins . We grew up together next door to each other. These cousins and I don't see eye to eye with a lot of things. When we don't see eye to eye they tend to discuss it between themselves and then they come to me to tell me what they think. I feel they gang up on me.
And there's no one to stick up for me. A recent argument took place a few weeks ago. Didn't really come to an agreement. So I know when I show up, it will be the topic of conversation. Its won't just be jus my 5 cousins. There will also be their significant others and their kids whom some are adults now. They all may get there early to discuss the situation as a group before I get there. I don't really want to go, but they invited me like they do every year. What should I do?

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HappyCamper74 · 46-50, M

Not seeing eye to eye on a topic and the confrontation that follows isn't the true issue. Them not realizing that people have different opinions on topics is the issue. Being able to agree to disagree, especially with family . I don't blame you for standing up for yourself. But common civility and accepting that everyone doesn't feel exactly the same about everything, and still being able to have a loving respect towards others is very important.
After all, this is your family. Extended family, yes. But, in times of need family is very important to have someone to lean on.
Whatever your choice, I'm sure you will make the right decision. Just try to stay as close as possible, not just seeing each other at funerals. Best of luck and Happy Thanksgiving

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melissa001 · 51-55, F

@HappyCamper74 I've been keeping the peace for so many years, Im just tired. I've tried to rely on them and I've helped them with whatever they need. The story of me and my cousins is too long to get into but thank you for your opinion.

melissa001 · 51-55, F

@HappyCamper74 if only were that easy. But I still thank you for comments.

HappyCamper74 · 46-50, M

@melissa001 my pleasure. Enjoy your Thanksgiving however you choose to celebrate.

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

Don’t go
You won’t enjoy it

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RedBaron · M

@melissa001 Why not just go out and eat at your favorite local restaurant?

Strictmichael75 · 61-69, M

@melissa001 why not invite so friends over who are also alone!

melissa001 · 51-55, F

@Strictmichael75 I have no friends.

MsSwan

I wouldn't go. Who needs that kind of aggravation on a Holiday.

melissa001 · 51-55, F

@MsSwan I don't need it in my life either. Lol. Thanks for commenting.

carpediem · 61-69, M

Go. Don't let someone else dictate what you do with your life. Go, hold your head up high, and ignore the negativity. Be the person they admire instead of scorn. Wear a smile, be confident, blow their minds with your resilience. It could be the start of a whole new you.

JohnnyNoir · 56-60, M

Tell them it's Thanksgiving and not the time to argue about anything. That shit can wait

melissa001 · 51-55, F

@JohnnyNoir you are right.

JohnnyNoir · 56-60, M

@melissa001 it really should be about family

Bumbles · 51-55, M

Don’t go….stay home and watch a favorite movie.

Queendragonfly · 31-35, F

It's an invitation not an arrest. You have the choice to say thanks but no thanks.
I would never go to that if all it gives is uncomfortable feelings and stress. (Unless I'm there to eat food and then say I got a headache and leave early.)

BeautifulLibra · 46-50, F

I wouldn't go because why put yourself through the torture of disrespect? Stay home and cook at home or buy something to warm at home for peace. Don't let anyone treat you this way family or not.

badminton · 61-69, MVIP

I never discuss politics or religion with relatives.

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