I was twenty five my last birthday and it was the party last night that became reflective...

I read The Bell Jar by Sylvia Plath. In that book the main character worries about her life and the myriad choices available. She uses a metaphor of a fig tree with the figs representing the choices. She doesn't know what to pick. Eventually, the figs ripen, then begin to rot on the branch, before they fall and it's too late. I think we all have this dilemma, especially if, like you, you're beautiful and intelligent and life perhaps offers you more than is available to others. Children can stifle your ambition. Career goals are taken over by the desire for a family. Cyril Connolly, an English writer, said, "There is no more somber enemy of good art than the pram in the hall." The pram is perhaps the somber enemy of more than art. Children need constant nurturing. Careers often don't accommodate a healthy family life.

TexChik · F

A biologist? What discipline? Do you have a Masters? I think at 25 we all wonder if we are on the right path and made the right decisions at that point in our lives.

I know a lot of girls I went to school with who paid the bills as a dancer. The tips from Friday and Saturday nights paid her way through law school, including her car, room, and board. She still dances, but only with her partner. ☺

Tastyfrzz · 61-69, M

So, what is the focus of your study. My brother was a reproductive endocrinologist. Taught and practiced at WVU.

I was married at age 22. Bought the house when i was 25. Same year Halley's comet was last here. '86 I think. While not flashy there are a lot of single engineers probably floating around that would probably be good husbands. We're typically not going to hang out at health clubs or bars though. If you're Jewish you have the option of a match maker. For the rest of us mere mortals the hunt is a bit more daunting. More likely to be the friend of a friend or on linked in. Not likely to find us in church unless we're taking our mothers there. Best spot to find a good guy is likely on a fishing charter or a bridge trying to catch a largemouth. I've seen girls do it. Good luck.