I 'M A Perfectionist
I hope this post has some replies. I lose faith on SW each time a futile sex related post has dozens of replies and something important and life changing as this usually gets none.
I still don't know the cause of my perfectionism but the effect is procrastination. That's the single root cause of my procrastination.
I've a strive for flawlessness and set excessively high (not that I feel like it obviously) performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations.
I feel that good enough is not good at all.
I always have excessive demands and goals on myself and if I don't met them I get discourage. It is followed by a feeling of motivation and despair and leads to depression.
I get easily overwhelmed by the overload of work on projects that I'm on. I want things to be perfect and done in a particular perfect way and don't accept things that are "good enough". I've difficult times delegating. I get lots of stress most times.
If there's a particular aspect or project in my life that is difficult I get so full of anxiety that I might get locked into an obsessive mindset that can destroy me from the inside. Fortunately it doesn't affect others around me neither I turn into drugs for relief but things could be easily get out of hand if I didn't had so much self control.
I rarely feel satisfied about what they are doing. Very seldom I see their efforts or accomplishments as "good enough". If it isn't perfect like I thought then it's by me perceived as a complete failure. Even if for others things are way more than perfect. Unfortunately or not I don't care about what others think.
It's not like I've self esteem fortunately. Because obviously despite all things it lead me into great success. But it's not healthy to have self-doubts and negative thoughts all the time.
I do not fear failure too. I've failed a lot in my life. I've learned and grown from it. I embrace failure. Doesn't come from there.
My perfectionism took me far in my life. I accomplished a lot. But I'm not happy with it. I still feel that is a step back and that I could do much more if I could learn how to manage it. But in order to do it I must find the cause.
It would help me a lot if some other perfectionists shared what is the cause of their perfectionism. Thank you all.
I still don't know the cause of my perfectionism but the effect is procrastination. That's the single root cause of my procrastination.
I've a strive for flawlessness and set excessively high (not that I feel like it obviously) performance standards, accompanied by overly critical self-evaluations.
I feel that good enough is not good at all.
I always have excessive demands and goals on myself and if I don't met them I get discourage. It is followed by a feeling of motivation and despair and leads to depression.
I get easily overwhelmed by the overload of work on projects that I'm on. I want things to be perfect and done in a particular perfect way and don't accept things that are "good enough". I've difficult times delegating. I get lots of stress most times.
If there's a particular aspect or project in my life that is difficult I get so full of anxiety that I might get locked into an obsessive mindset that can destroy me from the inside. Fortunately it doesn't affect others around me neither I turn into drugs for relief but things could be easily get out of hand if I didn't had so much self control.
I rarely feel satisfied about what they are doing. Very seldom I see their efforts or accomplishments as "good enough". If it isn't perfect like I thought then it's by me perceived as a complete failure. Even if for others things are way more than perfect. Unfortunately or not I don't care about what others think.
It's not like I've self esteem fortunately. Because obviously despite all things it lead me into great success. But it's not healthy to have self-doubts and negative thoughts all the time.
I do not fear failure too. I've failed a lot in my life. I've learned and grown from it. I embrace failure. Doesn't come from there.
My perfectionism took me far in my life. I accomplished a lot. But I'm not happy with it. I still feel that is a step back and that I could do much more if I could learn how to manage it. But in order to do it I must find the cause.
It would help me a lot if some other perfectionists shared what is the cause of their perfectionism. Thank you all.
