I think that to maximize life, we should learn to update our definition of 'URGENT' and learn to classify what truly belongs in the category.

Work to live, don't live to work

Sadly, people need to put work first because life is expensive. Everyone needs to take care of family as well.

My husband is marking exam papers at the moment so maybe three times a day.

"So why do so many of us put life on hold to do things for work?"

This world isn't based on putting family and people first. It's based on making ends meet, paying the bills to insure you have a home, food to eat, utilities and whatnot. If you own a vehicle, you will be made to pay for insurance, upkeep, gas and registration. You need to survive, even after what they call "retirement".