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ArishMell · 70-79, M
By that approach: yes.
You can only offer him advice, support and encouragement, for a start.
You've not said why he wants to attend college - perhaps he is fed up with being a school-boy and wants to learn in an adult setting, i.e, a college.
Though obviously if he cannot decide what sort of career he wants, simply going to college won't really help him unless he knows what subjects he is good at, and wants to follow those.
Pushing him into work won't help either if all he can find is unskilled labour on poor pay and conditions, and it will make it harder for him to attend any training course.
Either way he is stymied, but are you missing the point that perhaps secretly he does know what he wants to study, and how, but won't admit it because he feels pressured and demotivated by others trying to make him merely "figure it out"?
Figure what out?
I doubt he knows that unless you tell him! Is anyone helping him? Or are they just making him defensive and pushing him further into his shell?
You can only offer him advice, support and encouragement, for a start.
You've not said why he wants to attend college - perhaps he is fed up with being a school-boy and wants to learn in an adult setting, i.e, a college.
Though obviously if he cannot decide what sort of career he wants, simply going to college won't really help him unless he knows what subjects he is good at, and wants to follow those.
Pushing him into work won't help either if all he can find is unskilled labour on poor pay and conditions, and it will make it harder for him to attend any training course.
Either way he is stymied, but are you missing the point that perhaps secretly he does know what he wants to study, and how, but won't admit it because he feels pressured and demotivated by others trying to make him merely "figure it out"?
Figure what out?
I doubt he knows that unless you tell him! Is anyone helping him? Or are they just making him defensive and pushing him further into his shell?