Why do teachers try to make students feel bad for their actions?
I mean yes they need to teach them a lesson but don’t be too harsh with them.
Today the teacher I work with went OFF on a student who messed with her souvenir she bought from a trip over the summer and man she wasn’t afraid to show how angry she was. She said she refuses to speak to him for the whole day because he wasn’t respectful of her boundaries. She is a kind sweet woman but when boundaries are pushed and disrespected she can get MEAN. Now I don’t blame her for being upset but not speaking to him for the whole day is WAY harsh, especially for a five year old.
Another student gave an attitude and threw something at her, she charged at her and made her pick it up and gave her a good scolding. The student cried. She said, “I’m not going to like, but she looked cute when I hurt her feelings.” She said, “My feelings are hurt.” Then the teacher said, “Well YOU hurt my feelings so too bad. Know you know how it feels.” The other coworkers said, “Well sometimes karma is the only way for kids to learn a hard lesson.”
My older sister is a teacher and she told me, “You can’t be nice ALL THE TIME. Sometimes you have be the “mean” teacher. Be MEAN. Not time disrespectful or rude but you need to put your food down. Firmly say, “NO.” And stick with it. Students take advantage of nice kids and you gotta be cruel to be kind sometimes. I’m the “mean” teacher and I make my student own up to their mistake.”
Today the teacher I work with went OFF on a student who messed with her souvenir she bought from a trip over the summer and man she wasn’t afraid to show how angry she was. She said she refuses to speak to him for the whole day because he wasn’t respectful of her boundaries. She is a kind sweet woman but when boundaries are pushed and disrespected she can get MEAN. Now I don’t blame her for being upset but not speaking to him for the whole day is WAY harsh, especially for a five year old.
Another student gave an attitude and threw something at her, she charged at her and made her pick it up and gave her a good scolding. The student cried. She said, “I’m not going to like, but she looked cute when I hurt her feelings.” She said, “My feelings are hurt.” Then the teacher said, “Well YOU hurt my feelings so too bad. Know you know how it feels.” The other coworkers said, “Well sometimes karma is the only way for kids to learn a hard lesson.”
My older sister is a teacher and she told me, “You can’t be nice ALL THE TIME. Sometimes you have be the “mean” teacher. Be MEAN. Not time disrespectful or rude but you need to put your food down. Firmly say, “NO.” And stick with it. Students take advantage of nice kids and you gotta be cruel to be kind sometimes. I’m the “mean” teacher and I make my student own up to their mistake.”
22-25, F
