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Why i throw a lot of tantrums? I don't want this and want to change. Write me some suggestion please.

There is something I want to ask about my behavior lately in the past few months. I don't know why I become more aggressive and hard to control my temper. I often easily get angry, raise my voice to my boyfriend (we lived together), throw small things at him, and very easily stressed out.

How to get rid of these behaviors? I know that this behavior is wrong and such a big red flag, but sometimes I did all of that thing unconsciously. In my entire life, I have never experienced doing something like this by myself. But there is something I knew that my mom always threw lots of tantrums at me and my father since I was child. My boyfriend is a good man, he provides for me and supports me every time I get down. I really want to change for him and don't want him to hate me.

My background is I'm 22 years old and I live in Indonesia. I work as a 2D Artist at a game company. I think my job is not under high pressure.
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bert199 · 51-55, M
This is a really hard behavior to change at this point in your life. It started because you did it as a baby or a small child and it was effective in getting attention or something that you wanted so it became learned behavior. It’s deeply entrained. The way it’s handled with children is that they are ignored and ostracized Until their behavior changes and then they are rewarded with positive feedback. They use the same technique and training pets who have behavioral issues. it’s something you have to learn. You will always have some sort of instinct, but the longer you abandon that instinct, the easier time you will have. You have to promise your boyfriend will not get mad or at least permanently when he turns his back on you when this behavior is happening. I can tell you firsthand, my ex-girlfriend was famous for this and it sometimes got violent. it was embarrassing to be around. And created a lot of stress in the relationship and for everybody around.