"Affectionate” insults—I don’t really do them.

I don’t call anyone the "n" word, I don’t call my friends "b*tches","h*es" or "c*nts". I didn’t grow up with that kind of thing. It feels like a disconnect to me. I heard it enough from enemies, I don’t [b]need[/b] it from so-called friends. 😞

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Piper · 61-69, F

With rare and specific exceptions, neither do I. Those rare exceptions though, have and never would include any racial slur...or "c*nt". I sort of [i]get[/i] the reasoning behind using and [b]owning[/b] a word to supposedly lessen the power of it to hurt and demean, but...the words are still ugly to me.

ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M

@Piper I know I'm old, but when the heck did "the 'c' word" become so terrible? Used to be no different than "the 'p' word" or whatever.

bijouxbroussard · F

@ChipmunkErnie Not as an epithet. It was (and is) especially ugly to call a woman that here.

ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M

@bijouxbroussard If you say so -- sounds pretty much the same as calling a guy a "dick" as far as I can see.

bijouxbroussard · F

@ChipmunkErnie And as a man that perspective may be limited.

ChipmunkErnie · 70-79, M

@bijouxbroussard And as a woman yours might NOT be? Of course not. Because you're a woman, eh?

bijouxbroussard · F

@ChipmunkErnie In this instance perhaps you don’t understand because you can’t relate. And yes, there are some things I [b]don’t[/b] understand because perhaps I [b]can’t [/b] see it from a man’s point of view. I can admit that.

Piper · 61-69, F

@ChipmunkErnie During my going on 67 years of life, it has [i]always[/i] been a crude, vulgar, ugly word to use. The most insulting and crude word, used in a way to demean a woman. Until around four years, anyway, when I starting noticing it being used a lot more, and in different ways.