"Affectionate” insults—I don’t really do them.

I don’t call anyone the "n" word, I don’t call my friends "b*tches","h*es" or "c*nts". I didn’t grow up with that kind of thing. It feels like a disconnect to me. I heard it enough from enemies, I don’t [b]need[/b] it from so-called friends. 😞

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Mamapolo2016 · F

I agree. Friendship and affection should be cause for elevation of the person, not diminishing them. As you say, the world supplies more than enough.

I [i]think[/i] it is a way of owning those epithets and extracting the sting.

I suppose my age has saved me from being on the receiving end, for the most part.

bijouxbroussard · F

@Mamapolo2016 Yes. It’s like the (mistaken) premise by which some in my community think the "n" word can be sanitized. It [b]can’t[/b]; people are still using it as an insult, and we are still [b]hearing[/b] it as an insult. So it hasn’t lost any of its power. As long as those words are insults in [b]anyone’s[/b] mouth, I will never understand why anyone else would want to own them. 🙁

Mamapolo2016 · F

@bijouxbroussard How much better to make new words that mean affection and support and unity!

bijouxbroussard · F

@Mamapolo2016 Wouldn’t [b]that[/b] be amazing ? And so much more productive…