"Affectionate” insults—I don’t really do them.

I don’t call anyone the "n" word, I don’t call my friends "b*tches","h*es" or "c*nts". I didn’t grow up with that kind of thing. It feels like a disconnect to me. I heard it enough from enemies, I don’t need it from so-called friends. 😞

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Mamapolo2016 · F

I agree. Friendship and affection should be cause for elevation of the person, not diminishing them. As you say, the world supplies more than enough.

I think it is a way of owning those epithets and extracting the sting.

I suppose my age has saved me from being on the receiving end, for the most part.

bijouxbroussard · F

@Mamapolo2016 Yes. It’s like the (mistaken) premise by which some in my community think the "n" word can be sanitized. It can’t; people are still using it as an insult, and we are still hearing it as an insult. So it hasn’t lost any of its power. As long as those words are insults in anyone’s mouth, I will never understand why anyone else would want to own them. 🙁

Mamapolo2016 · F

@bijouxbroussard How much better to make new words that mean affection and support and unity!

bijouxbroussard · F

@Mamapolo2016 Wouldn’t that be amazing ? And so much more productive…