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One thing I have never understood…

When you’re going through difficult times and someone tells you, “Other people are going through worse.”

Is that supposed to be comforting ?

What does that change about your situation ?

[b]Why[/b] would that make you feel better ?

And seriously, what kind of person feels [b]better[/b] for knowing others are in worse shape than they are ? 🥺
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Abstraction · 61-69, M
It's not just useless, it makes things feel worse.
1. It effectively minimises and invalidates your feelings.
2. Congratulations, you can now feel guilty for having an emotional response.
3. It shuts you down.
4. It does nothing to acknowledge your feelings, support you, recognise you, help you.
5. Fail.

If you have access to HBO I highly recommend watching Atlas of the Heart by Brene Brown. A seriously good exposition to improve emotional intelligence - both for understanding and interpreting your own experience meaningfully - and being able to support others.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bl776nCdIe0