I Hate Guys Who Hit Women

@QuixoticSoul By restrain, I meant along the lines of throws, holds, and take-downs. Full on striking is just where I draw the line. I generally don't like hitting people in general and would rather rely on using their body weight against them or wrestling. So that's personal preference and all I'm good at anyways. Besides striking someone holding a knife is just not a good idea unless you're a kickboxer anyways.

As you've said in your post, I'll use the appropriate amount of force but there other ways to defend yourself without striking is pretty much what I'm getting at.

@ChimerIX In the real world, takedowns and throws are often more damaging than punching lmao - pavement hurts.

Anyway, if you're being stabbed, that's a time for maximum response, whatever that is - and that depends on your skillset, if wrestling is your thing then go for it. But no matter what you're doing you have to adjust things, because a lot of things are liable to get you stabbed (including by accident), whether grappling or striking.

I think bringing deadly force into this conversation clouds the water tbh - at that threat level consideration of gender are right out. Knives are bad news.

Proportionate response to deadly force is basically anything - including deadly force.

@QuixoticSoul Yes, yes it does hurt like a mother. Admittedly, if you're a novice and just scoop someone as they like to say then yeah, you're going to crack their skull open or at least leave them convulsing upon the ground but that can also happen from hitting someone who isn't used to being hit either. I've seen some nasty street fights where someone picks the wrong fight and one hit to the head, they go into a fit of shakes and have God knows what kind of brain damage. It happens all the time.

That being said, I don't disagree with you or your post. I was raised not to hit a woman, it's a programming one cannot easily break and I have no desire to, no matter what but to still defend myself which is contradictory but wrestling I find is an even ground. You're right though when deadly force is involved it becomes a whole other ball game but in that type of situation the best idea is to hit the ground running. As they say, no one wins in a knife fight.

My main point is though, if a small woman comes at me swinging, I'm not going to deck her or choke her out like I would a full grown man, ya know? Now, if she's an Amazonian death machine, I'm going to sweep the legs and run hahaha.

@tropicaltiger Oh, that's a totally different kettle of fish... Pre-emptive strikes are NOT self defence.

@tropicaltiger yes, i would not slap a giant icelandic viking man across the face expecting him to "be the bigger person and walk away" as that would be retarded, do you think he would walk away becuz hes bigger and stronger or would he rip me in half? lol i am his equal after all..

besides.. if you restrain them your an automatic rapist