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I Hate Guys Who Hit Women

An abuser isn't abusive 24/7. They usually demonstrate positive character traits most of the time. That's what makes the abuse so confusing when it happens, and what makes leaving so much more difficult. I know women, personally, who are physically and emotionally abused by their husbands, yet they stay and sometimes believe they are in love. I believe this is one of the reasons why this issue is still going. Abusive men will never stop abusing until women start to know their worth.

The biggest challenge is to convince a woman that it's not her fault. If your husband is abusive, you cannot ignore it. There's no excuse for a man hitting a woman. Ever. Self respect by definition is a confidence and pride in feeling that you are behaving in an honorable and dignified manner. Respect yourself and walk away.

Violence against women is the last refuge of disgusting immoral men. He who has once hit a woman, had forever killed a man in himself. Every time you mistreat a woman, you give up the right to be treated like a man.
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Sapio · 46-50, M
Actually from taking a conflict resolution course as well as other courses that deal with creating respectful relationship atmospheres, I agree but also disagree with you.

These abusers, the ones that have a conscience (not those of a sociopathic nature) simply lack tools of understanding how they are triggered and furthermore why.

They have to want to look deep within themselves and many of them won't do that because anger is a shield to cover insecurity. Many can face the world but cannot face their true selves. If they were willing to do so they could change.

Communication courses would be a great start for these men you speak of. But they have to want to commit to participating and most are really too scared.
Madeleine · 41-45, F
@Sapio This is a very enlightening insight. You are absolutely right. Thank you for your thoughts.
Fernie · F
@Sapio but....abusers rarely look within
Sapio · 46-50, M
@Fernie Yes that's true and that falls in line with what I said about facing the world but not themselves.