How to communicate with someone that believes you are the problem

It’s been really frustrating lately. Often when I say something to my wife she jumps to conclusions about what I’m trying to say and my motivations ( which she claims are mostly negative). Doesn’t matter if I try to clarify or tell that isn’t what I’m talking about nor was it my intention. At that point it no longer matters to her what I was trying to say and she get even more angry that I’m still talking about it.

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PinkMoon · 26-30, F

Was she like this before you married her?

djjohnson · 41-45, M

@PinkMoon no. She used to assume the best in me. Or if she did misunderstand me she was wiling to listen to my clarification. Things changed when we decide for her to go back to work while I focused on finishing my degree. Me finishing and going back to work didn’t reverse the problem. She however claims she hasn’t changed at all over the years. Only I have changed and have become more mean and bitter. And in some ways she is correct. I admit I do give into my frustrations now and again and say something flippant. Unfortunately she has taken these reactions to her as proof that I am the cause.

PinkMoon · 26-30, F

@djjohnson Divorce time.