How to communicate with someone that believes you are the problem

It’s been really frustrating lately. Often when I say something to my wife she jumps to conclusions about what I’m trying to say and my motivations ( which she claims are mostly negative). Doesn’t matter if I try to clarify or tell that isn’t what I’m talking about nor was it my intention. At that point it no longer matters to her what I was trying to say and she get even more angry that I’m still talking about it.

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tallpowerhouseblonde · 36-40, F

One method is called the grey rock. Grey is the English spelling lol. You just don't say anything. A grey rock just exists and does nothing at all. The method is actually one approach for dealing with narcissists.

djjohnson · 41-45, M

@tallpowerhouseblonde I have been thinking that is what I’ve been dealing with. I’ve been tempted to use this method for a while. I’m already to the point I don’t share my thoughts with her. I just don’t see how going completely silent won’t escalate the problem more. She already complains about how we don’t talk as much as we used to. But again that is my all my fault apparently. What I need is an outside independent source that she’ll listen to tell her what she is doing. The problem is I don’t think she’ll listen to anyone that doesn’t agree with her.