A student seems to dislike me because I won’t let him do what he wants or hisses at me. It hurts.

I know we’re just getting to know them but kids are so brutally honest. They have no filter. One of the students threw a fit because I was going to take him to the bathroom. He won’t let me take him. He gives other teachers a hard time but lets them take him. Okay whatever no big deal. I know our job is to keep the kids safe. The other kid swap his arm towards me when I tried to get him to his seat and pushed my arm away from his. He would not stay in his seat. The teacher said sometimes you have to make them and they have to learn that you they have to do things they don’t want to do. Autistic or not, it still applies and they need to get used to it. Buck up buttercup.
True but I hate hearing them scream and yell when they’re forced. The same kid hissed at me and said “I hate you, you fat cow!!!”
That hurt my feelings but I did my best to not let it bother me. I told him that hurt my feelings but another teacher told him to come her and explain that wasn’t a nice thing to do and he can’t just do what he wants. Later he gave her a hug. He should have done that for me but I won’t force it. Isn’t it out job to not let the kids do what they want? My sister said, “If a student said he or she “hated” you, you’re doing your job right. You’re not doing your job probably if they never said that to you. Sometimes you gotta be the “mean” teacher. It’s uncomfortable at first but that’s a good thing. You HAVE to be uncomfortable to get comfortable and discomfort is good sometimes. That means you’re learning and growing too. Kids need that too. Sounds hard but it’s the truth and it’s a life lesson we have to learn. Even I did.” She told me some don't like her because she wouldn’t let them do what they want and it doesn’t bother her. I work with the little kids. They’re a handful.

Saucylover · 26-30, F

I used to work with children as well. I was a children's librarian for 3 years. I dealt with them daily. I also ran our yearly summer reading program and did tons of weekly programs with babies, toddlers, elementary, middle school children, and high school children. A word of advice, you are the adult in this situation. I was a lot like you at first. I was concerned about hurting their feelings, and I wanted them to warm up to me/like me. Newsflash: children need adults because they need guidance. If they didn't need discipline, there would be no point in parents, teachers, principals, etc. They have to learn that certain behavior is accepted and others are not. You have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. After a while, you will get used to disciplining them. It is not all about the discipline, of course, they need to be rewarded for positive behavior, not every time, but sometimes. Positive reinforcement is a good thing. If they say they hate you, they don't. They don't even understand hate or love. They are children. They only say that because they dislike being disciplined. That is what they hate. Not you as a person. Children need guidance and leaders, it's what makes them feel safe and protected. Imagine if they had to govern themselves? Anyway, I hope this helps. Please excuse any typos lol.