As someone with a disability I think it’s important to learn to accept that not everyone is going to be into you or a good fit to be with you,
but some people will be.
I’m also allowed to have preferences and standards. For example, one of my standards is to not date anybody who thinks I’m blessed they want me despite my disability. People like that can go fnck themselves lol..
Maintaining this viewpoint allows a more self-confident perception of myself and neutral view of others rather than being upset about rejection.
Truth is, everyone has to deal with rejection to some extent. Disability aside, I’ve also had people not be into me because I’m a mom or because I didn’t have a better job.. factors that would’ve impaired the lifestyle they want to share with somebody. That’s OK. I’ve not been into people because they were partiers or were unambitious.
I’ve also had guys not be into me because I’m short or a brunette. I’ve not been into guys because they were too short. Shit happens 🤷🏻♀️😅
I think rather than get hung up on attraction it benefits persons with disabilities far more to channel that energy into a greater activism. There’s a huge movement going on for equity right now that has utterly neglected the rampant disability inequality.
The more ‘able’ we become to live a life we actually want the more equal footing we have with non-disabled people working towards living theirs, which includes dating.
