Menopause is hard work
It's a big topic atm.
And I can tell you my mum is really struggling.
She was taking the herbal medicines like menopace and well woman.
But she claims they work for a few months and they stop.
I told her she needs to consider something because she was really depressed.
Suffering with severe brain fog, sweating a lot and just sounding so low.
I'm on anti depressants and although she and I'm sure many other women will say I'm insensitive for suggesting this.
But my mum has been down for a number of years.
We both have. She lost my dad in 2021 to covid following his stroke in 2017.
I know she's not dealt with it because sometimes I mention his name or a memory and she gets really emotional.
I've suggested maybe trying counselling just so she can have a unbiased/non judgmental conversation in a safe space.
But she refuses to do it. She talks to people around her and they basically keep telling her she needs to get over it and get out there.
But they were together for 35 years.
She has recently been diagnosed with high blood pressure the same as my dad.
And she doesnt seem to understand the urgency to dealing with this.
Forgetting to take her meds not eating because of working through lunch.
I had to really tell her off and let her know my panic that I just can't go through that again with another parent.
Locked in syndrome is no joke.
Anyways the doctors haven't been much of a help because although shes been diagnosed and given tablets she's had her first set of heart monitoring but they forgot to send her on for an ecg.
It's a joke really so it's been 2 months. I said to much to chase it up and consequently she gave a new doctor an earful.
But this is getting serious now because she is so down all the time.
She's put on so much weight which she can't shift, most Saturdays and Sundays shes sleeping in til late, binge watching series after series.
Unless I kind of ask her to meet up.
Today I've slyly had to as her if we can meet in the afternoon for a walk because after this mornings call she was on the way down a slippery depressed slope.
I'm not really sure what to say, she needs some girly friends, but she hasn't got the motivation to make the friendships.
It's hard because I don't have a social life either so it seems like I'm really pushing her.. But it could do her good.
And I can tell you my mum is really struggling.
She was taking the herbal medicines like menopace and well woman.
But she claims they work for a few months and they stop.
I told her she needs to consider something because she was really depressed.
Suffering with severe brain fog, sweating a lot and just sounding so low.
I'm on anti depressants and although she and I'm sure many other women will say I'm insensitive for suggesting this.
But my mum has been down for a number of years.
We both have. She lost my dad in 2021 to covid following his stroke in 2017.
I know she's not dealt with it because sometimes I mention his name or a memory and she gets really emotional.
I've suggested maybe trying counselling just so she can have a unbiased/non judgmental conversation in a safe space.
But she refuses to do it. She talks to people around her and they basically keep telling her she needs to get over it and get out there.
But they were together for 35 years.
She has recently been diagnosed with high blood pressure the same as my dad.
And she doesnt seem to understand the urgency to dealing with this.
Forgetting to take her meds not eating because of working through lunch.
I had to really tell her off and let her know my panic that I just can't go through that again with another parent.
Locked in syndrome is no joke.
Anyways the doctors haven't been much of a help because although shes been diagnosed and given tablets she's had her first set of heart monitoring but they forgot to send her on for an ecg.
It's a joke really so it's been 2 months. I said to much to chase it up and consequently she gave a new doctor an earful.
But this is getting serious now because she is so down all the time.
She's put on so much weight which she can't shift, most Saturdays and Sundays shes sleeping in til late, binge watching series after series.
Unless I kind of ask her to meet up.
Today I've slyly had to as her if we can meet in the afternoon for a walk because after this mornings call she was on the way down a slippery depressed slope.
I'm not really sure what to say, she needs some girly friends, but she hasn't got the motivation to make the friendships.
It's hard because I don't have a social life either so it seems like I'm really pushing her.. But it could do her good.
31-35, F
