🎶Yesterday, All My Troubles Seemed So Far Away🎶

People are well meaning, but how do you answer the question.
"How are you doing?"
Not possible to answer that in a way that's truthful without making other people uncomfortable.
I feel like screaming, like I want to pound the walls, lose it completely...
How do you deal with news that it's cancer most likely stage 4 and yet,you have no answers?
Don't know the type yet.
Have to wait on tests and appointments.
Don't know what treatments they will do.
How do you deal with it?
Deal with people wanting comfort for themselves when all you can manage to do is to keep yourself sane long enough to not lose it?

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DrWatson · 70-79, M

I understand.

When I have been in situations where I know there is no happy ending , I have just calmly told the truth.

As you say, many people can't handle that, but I think we all need to learn how to respond better to other's pain.

( As you read the story I am about to relate, please don't think I am assuming the worst about your husband. I am not! )

I remember a conversation where I responded to "how are you" with, "not well. My mother is dying."

This was a brief conversation with a woman in a store. As we parted, she said, "I hope your mother gets better ". I just said firmly, "She won't. She's dying."

The woman had no idea what to say

She was young. I have found that older people are better at this, having encountered tragedy more often .

You are more than entitled to pound some walls!

The two of you are in my prayers.