@OlderSometimesWiser any tips? or indications of the "end"? She is very bad off but is fighting death like I have never seen. Also, love your username

@HellsBelle Same with my mom. She did not want to go. Fought it every step of the way. The cliched things you’re told, play music, let her know it’s okay to leave, to let go, even touching her at times, she wanted no part of it. She was pissed. Lol….. my sister and I, she could take or leave but she had two granddaughters, the great loves of her life who she did not want to be parted from. It absolutely kills me that they’re both getting married, one this year and one next year, and mom will not be there to see it. Would have been the absolute highlight of her life.

If your mom is still communicative in any way, tell her anything/everything you want her to know. It’s a major relief that we had no unfinished business and no words left unsaid. Before her final days at home, when we still had hope, I sat with her in the infusion center for her eight hour chemo treatments. Crazy that we had some of our best talks there. About anything and everything. Very meaningful time. When we did bring her home for her last ten days, after the first couple of days she was pretty much unconscious, I was just grateful that the last thing we said to each other was “I love you.”

After that unfortunately it was just a waiting game. A long, agonizing waiting game. We kept her as comfortable and pain free as possible until she could fight no more, when my sister went into her room one night at about 10pm, she was gone.