Losing virginity and some sensible advice.
I was 19 when I lost my virginity. I was one of a rowdy group of girls. Me being the most shy. I had a super strict upbringing so every week I lied to my parents and told them I was going on a sleep over. The reality was, I used to go out round the local pubs and clubs or else we'd stay at a friend's house if there were no parents present and then drink until we fell over and/or passed out.
There were always boys over and this particular night, the boy in question was an on/off boyfriend of mine. I had had a lot of vodka and we were fooling around on a mattress on my friends living room floor. After a while I said I just wanted to go to sleep. He said, "why are you being a cock tease, making out you want me and then saying all you want to do is sleep?"
I don't know why but at the time I cared so much about what he thought. I said "I do want you". He kissed me some more and then said. "Can I take your pants off? I won't do anything." Here is where I should have got up, told him he was being a massive bell end and left. Unfortunately 19yr old me was a different me to 45yr old me. I wanted to say no but didn't because he'd already been upset so I passively allowed him to remove my underwear. It was a massive mistake.
The sex was horrible. We were both totally clueless. He just got on top of me and I was obviously not ready. I tensed right up and there was this awful sharp pain and he pushed in anyway. I genuinely believed I'd been injured down there. I told him it hurt and his response was not 'sorry do you want me to stop or go slower' like anyone with an ounce of sensitivity might say but this;
"It's supposed to hurt the first time"
So this is some sensible advice and wisdom from me, to all the young ladies who might be still waiting to experience sex for the first time. This is important. Don't forget.
"IT IS NOT SUPPOSED TO HURT!!!!!"
Not the first time or any time (unless you want it to but that's something else) Choose someone who cares about you and who wants you to enjoy this. Choose someone who deserves you and if you're not sure, don't be pressured. If they are worthy. They will wait until you are sure. Oh and take control of it yourself. Sit on top of him so you have 100% say in how much, how long and how fast.
Any man who has a problem with that is an idiot and doesn't deserve you.
Make sure he's worthy. 💋💋
There were always boys over and this particular night, the boy in question was an on/off boyfriend of mine. I had had a lot of vodka and we were fooling around on a mattress on my friends living room floor. After a while I said I just wanted to go to sleep. He said, "why are you being a cock tease, making out you want me and then saying all you want to do is sleep?"
I don't know why but at the time I cared so much about what he thought. I said "I do want you". He kissed me some more and then said. "Can I take your pants off? I won't do anything." Here is where I should have got up, told him he was being a massive bell end and left. Unfortunately 19yr old me was a different me to 45yr old me. I wanted to say no but didn't because he'd already been upset so I passively allowed him to remove my underwear. It was a massive mistake.
The sex was horrible. We were both totally clueless. He just got on top of me and I was obviously not ready. I tensed right up and there was this awful sharp pain and he pushed in anyway. I genuinely believed I'd been injured down there. I told him it hurt and his response was not 'sorry do you want me to stop or go slower' like anyone with an ounce of sensitivity might say but this;
"It's supposed to hurt the first time"
So this is some sensible advice and wisdom from me, to all the young ladies who might be still waiting to experience sex for the first time. This is important. Don't forget.
"IT IS NOT SUPPOSED TO HURT!!!!!"
Not the first time or any time (unless you want it to but that's something else) Choose someone who cares about you and who wants you to enjoy this. Choose someone who deserves you and if you're not sure, don't be pressured. If they are worthy. They will wait until you are sure. Oh and take control of it yourself. Sit on top of him so you have 100% say in how much, how long and how fast.
Any man who has a problem with that is an idiot and doesn't deserve you.
Make sure he's worthy. 💋💋
