MFM advices please

Hi all,

We are a couple 5'9" both of us the same height, we are 31 years old and we've been together for 9 years

Let me begin with our story, I always wanted a threesome and finally about 2 or 3 years ago I have decided to ask my girlfriend/wife. She was reluctant in saying yes, mostly because she thinks it will affect our relationship in a bad way. I have explained this encounter would be only for exploring and only to try a new thing, I wanted her to feel good pleasured by two men and enjoy something new after all those years. Finally last week she agreed in trying a threesome, the condition is that we have to do far away from home and we would like it to be spontaneous, we don't want anyone from the website, we simply want to go to a night club and see what is coming our way. I said that the whole night should be relaxed and we shouldn't pressure ourself into trying so bad to find someone. My wife is very attractive and I have mentioned that I'm willing to spend our night mostly on the dance floor and if she can just "invite" men to join us dancing and rub against them in front of me to see how far they would go, basically exploring their limits, if we see someone is very confident, I would excuse to the bathroom and see if he would even go further, like touching her intimate parts and even trying to kiss and I said I would be more than happy for her to go ahead let herself carried away. My question is now, how successfull do you think this scenario would be ? 30% or 100% ? Any advice here please? We are planning to do this scenario in multiple places the same night with more than 1 person.
The next thing I mentioned that she should try to find out their size through their pants or do you think it's possible to actually put her hand inside their underwear without anyone noticing ? The reason I want this is because I don't really want anyone that has is smaller than me. She said that it's almost impossible to find someone's size through their clothes. What do you think ? She also said that she would someone taller than us and she always gets turned on by men in tie suits.

After we are going to have all this fun games, we will then proceed in inviting someone to our hotel room for some drinks and take it from there. I have mentioned that we should try DVP, now I want to try DP, she said this will be very difficult as she is very tight on her bum, I'd like to say that I only tried 2 times in there.

What do you think about those scenarios, do you think we can make them happen easily ?

I would be happy to find out people's experiences in trying this scenarios or similar? How did you feel the next day ? Did the 3rd person leave straight away after all has finished ?

Would really appreciate your advices of any kind you are willing to give.

Thanks in advance.

dancingtongue · 80-89, M

For someone who seems to want to reach a consensual, cooperative compromise with your partner, you seem to have badgered her into a compromising situation to fulfill your fantasy. Let me describe how my partner and I approached MFH.

We were discussing sexual fantasies we had never been able to fulfill. We discovered MFM were at the top of both of our lists. She had never attempted because she never trusted any of her previous partners; my late wife had never been interested. She said it would have to be under her ground rules, and I agreed. (The trust card.) Her ground rules were she got to pick the other man, I got to watch but not participate until she indicated she was ready, it in no way gave me permission to be shared with other women, she could call it quits anytime she grew uncomfortable or tired of it, and none of it would be held against her at some future point. I agreed.

She wanted the first to be a guy she had had a previous sexual relationship with. I don't know if this was a test, or simply comfort level with her. I agreed. We met for dinner in a restaurant, went to a hotel. I still was wondering if she would go through with it. She took off her pants and handed them to me, I hung them up still wondering how far she would go, turned around and she already straddling him in a chair -- he barely had his pants down -- humping him. They finished undressing, moved to the bed, and after a bit she beckoned me to join them. Which I did.

We had a half dozen MFM -- with him, with another of her former lovers, with a guy she picked off the Internet and we met for brunch before agreeing to meet up for sex. After about a year or so she said as enjoyable as it was physically for her, she was having nightmares which she attributed to her subconscious being troubled over morality issues and wanted to stop. So we did.

Now this may sound like she set all the rules, and rightfully so. Unfortunately, it is the woman who is taking all the risks in our puritanical society. Men are just sowing the wild oats. Women run the risk of being sluts, whores, and worse, in addition to the risks of physical abuse and pregnancy they always face. .

thisgenericnamehere · 36-40, M

You definitely aren't ready for a threesome with this particularly childish approach.

VeronicaJane

It does sound like she is reluctant and you are pushing it. Why not pause it, and wait for her to bring it up? If she is interested, she will. If not, she won't.

I understand spontaneous. But not to rain on your parade, but while that can be exciting, there's this thing called STDs..... Which I wouldn't imagine your reluctant wife would like as a souvenir.... Probably safer to do it with someone you know, or maybe a swing club. You could go and watch, and she could participate as she feels comfortable, or not.