My husband wants to see me with other men

And I am not exactly sure how I feel about it. He has been open about it and I feel like it is coming from a place of love but I still cannot fully understand his intentions and whether or not I should seriously consider this. Any help or advice would be amazing!

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SinlessOnslaught · M

Write down pros and cons of each option (swinging or not swinging) and score them. Also ask yourself: do YOU want this or not. Are YOU willing to do this or not.

Just take your time to consider it. There's no rush.

metamorphosis · 22-25, F

@SinlessOnslaught That is a really good idea, thank you

SinlessOnslaught · M

@metamorphosis Let me know how it goes.

metamorphosis · 22-25, F

@SinlessOnslaught I certainly will. Could use some help sorting through those pros and cons for sure, not sure where to start really

SinlessOnslaught · M

@metamorphosis You want my help? Get a piece of paper and a pen. Draw a line from left to right down the middle, and another line from top to bottom down the middle. You'll have four boxes:
- Pros of swinging
- Cons of swinging
- Pros of not swinging
- Cons of not swinging

Organize them however you want.

metamorphosis · 22-25, F

@SinlessOnslaught ok, that part I get lol

SinlessOnslaught · M

@metamorphosis Okay. Do you think swinging would be a turn on for you? That would be a pro.

Do you think it would cause relationship problems? That would be a con.

You mentioned that his ego might not be able to handle it. Con.

metamorphosis · 22-25, F

@SinlessOnslaught Ah ok this definitely helps get me started!

SinlessOnslaught · M

@metamorphosis Good!