FreeSpirit1 · 51-55, F
OogieBoogie · F
Have done, yeah.
Have also tried to soldier thru and resolve things.
Neither is the magic bullet.
Sometimes we need to stew on stuff.
Sometimes we need to stop before we hurt people.
Arguments and disagreements are opportunities . Opportunities for clarity and resolution.
There is no one right recipe that we can all easily follow.
And 'feelings" aren't our identity.
They are passing.
They can change.
They can enlightened us or trap us.
Taking multiple goes at resolving issues, rather than 'hashing it out" , or '"giving in for the sake of peace' aren't FULL solutions - They can leave behind tendrils of resentment and hurt.
A reminder that you love someone, but need time or a break is still ok.
Have also tried to soldier thru and resolve things.
Neither is the magic bullet.
Sometimes we need to stew on stuff.
Sometimes we need to stop before we hurt people.
Arguments and disagreements are opportunities . Opportunities for clarity and resolution.
There is no one right recipe that we can all easily follow.
And 'feelings" aren't our identity.
They are passing.
They can change.
They can enlightened us or trap us.
Taking multiple goes at resolving issues, rather than 'hashing it out" , or '"giving in for the sake of peace' aren't FULL solutions - They can leave behind tendrils of resentment and hurt.
A reminder that you love someone, but need time or a break is still ok.
MellyMel22 · F
@OogieBoogie I can see that at times, but I think sometimes it just means that they don’t give a shit and it’s time to move on.
AzAZ09223 · 26-30, M
My own music is better.
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MellyMel22 · F
@DancingStarGoddess Same here!
WillaKissing · 61-69, M
MellyMel22 · F
@WillaKissing I agree.
BrandNewMan · 61-69, M
MellyMel22 · F
@BrandNewMan Yeah or just don’t care.
MellyMel22 · F
@GoFish Just a bit.
MellyMel22 · F
@EldritchFox Yeah, same here. Makes you see them a whole different way sometimes.
@MellyMel22 I try to be understanding, people deal with things differently, but there's a polite way go about it so one person's feelings don't get trashed.
MellyMel22 · F
@EldritchFox Some just simply don't care.
RebelRaven · 51-55, F
MellyMel22 · F
@RebelRaven Same
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OogieBoogie · F
@MellyMel22i used to think that .....buuut...
I was having a convo with my neighbor one day, and she was mentioning how she can get over sensitised during an arguemnt and stuff comes out wrong - so she likes to be able quit the argument to calm and cool down ...to debate properly. Not fall into insults and overheated comments.
Her boyfirend doesn't.
He wants to resolve it immediately.
He pushes, she gets even more overwhelmed and it all goes to shit.
And i remember that my ex and i used to halt arguments if they got heated - we'd revisit them the next day when we had time to calm down.
What destroyed us was....when we lost that ability. When we stuck at it and got flustered and angry... that's when we started throwing hurt at each other.
Its a tough choice🤷♀
I was having a convo with my neighbor one day, and she was mentioning how she can get over sensitised during an arguemnt and stuff comes out wrong - so she likes to be able quit the argument to calm and cool down ...to debate properly. Not fall into insults and overheated comments.
Her boyfirend doesn't.
He wants to resolve it immediately.
He pushes, she gets even more overwhelmed and it all goes to shit.
And i remember that my ex and i used to halt arguments if they got heated - we'd revisit them the next day when we had time to calm down.
What destroyed us was....when we lost that ability. When we stuck at it and got flustered and angry... that's when we started throwing hurt at each other.
Its a tough choice🤷♀
MellyMel22 · F
@OogieBoogie That makes sense for that type of situation for sure!
OogieBoogie · F
@MellyMel22 its hard.
We all have different styles, different tolerances.
And its really difficult when two people of different styles argue.
They both have differing needs🤷♀
We all have different styles, different tolerances.
And its really difficult when two people of different styles argue.
They both have differing needs🤷♀
MellyMel22 · F
@Royricky09 That’s how it should be.
FreeLittleBird · F
Lilnonames · F