This question is for the younger age range 16-18 older can help to

So my second oldest daughter just started to date she is turning 17. Now even though I am not okay with it I wanted her to have a little freedom, but I started noticing a major change in her in less then two months. She's become very closed off and failing grades and lying. As a mom I did Snoop in her stuff and found a long letter with some pretty out there things. I feel like she is beyond depressed and I want to help her, but not sure how to approach her and the situation. I can say stop seeing him but I don't want her mad. Any help please from teens of today

popmol · 22-25, M

well i'd say don't snoop around in her stuff, give her more hugs and make yourself completely open to her! but theres 1 problem the grades and the lying. you need to find out if the boyfriend is a problem since he could be a bad influence. if he is bad you should forbid her from seeing him.