The guy has been apologizing all week and wants another chance

@Threepio no,he will always have an excuse and never blame himself

But I might be cynical about it

@caccoon For real could have led to SA

@caccoon That and the fact he's divorced and is still somewhat infatuated with his ex. Who knows how that marriage ended.

@buriedalive that's exactly what I said to him

@LeGrotesque Alright that changes things then if you laid out your boundaries and he still exerted his needs over yours that is not an equal partnership. I'd walk away. I hate when people pull that shit they sound great on paper and at first it's great then the shitstorm hits.

@HootyTheNightOwl Probably not. However, we don't know the conversations between them and if she's willing to or not. He's certainly not owed that opportunity after how he behaved.

@Turtlepower We do know from previous posts that she wants to take it slow because she's still healing from another recent abusive relationship, though - which he knows about... so, based on that, I think we can say that she is not willing (or consenting) at this time.

Of course, that's not to say that she won't change her mind at some point - which is why it's always important to check that your partner still freely and willingly consents to this (whatever "this" might be). Even if she consented to earlier acts, there can still be a point where either party withdraws consent.

@HootyTheNightOwl I agree. Respectfully, I think you're preaching to the choir here.

@SilentObZerver I don't love him, it was only our second date.

@Chern0bylplaygr0unds absolutely this. If they can get you back after pushing you too far they'll keep pushing until you've lost yourself.