Is she not interested....?

Hi, I met someone at work who comes in regularly and we've been chatting it up for about a month or so. Well, yesterday I mustered up the courage to ask her out for coffee and she agreed. I gave her my number and she texted me the next hour, which I thought were some pretty big green flags. But the conversation we had was..... well, pretty dry. I was the one asking her questions for like, 90% of the time and her schedule seems to be hectic, saying if Thursday or Friday doesn’t work for her it might need to wait until next week. Then we talked about our pets + how we unwind before the conversation sort of just.... stopped.

I know that this is only the first exchange, and she was probably tired from babysitting + subbing at work. But i cant help but feel like maybe she isnt interested. I'm used to people giving me subjefts to discuss when they're interested but she didn't really do any of that or make any effort to continue the conversation after talking about our comfort shows.

How should I approach this? Should I iust wait & see if she reaches out today or tomorrow?

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FlowersInHerHair · 56-60, F

You said you asked questions 90% of the time? Did you leave her room to actually speak? Monopolizing the conversation and throwing out so many question can come across as an interrogation. You should probably let her make the next move but I wouldn’t sit by the phone waiting for it.

TheMasterMan1 · 26-30, M

@FlowersInHerHair Well when the other person isnt asking anything or talking about anything themselves, what else am I supposed to do? Brag about the weather?

FlowersInHerHair · 56-60, F

@TheMasterMan1 That’s a good indication that she wishes she had canceled.

TheMasterMan1 · 26-30, M

@FlowersInHerHair Then why say yes to the coffee date in the first place & text me the following hour? All I'm saying is it takes two to tango

FlowersInHerHair · 56-60, F

@TheMasterMan1 Yes, it takes two. And she stepped out of the dance. She got a free coffee and realized you weren’t for her. It happens. It’s called dating.

TheMasterMan1 · 26-30, M

@FlowersInHerHair We didnt go on the date yet though? She's gonna (hopefully) get back to me on what day works best for her. Either tomorrow or possibly sometime next week according to her

FlowersInHerHair · 56-60, F

@TheMasterMan1 Ummm…you invited someone you are not friends with for coffee then talked about yourselves. That’s called a date. It’s also a safe first date. Short and sweet.

TheMasterMan1 · 26-30, M

@FlowersInHerHair Well, we chatted for about 20 mins today before she ended the conversation short saying "her dog was demanding fetches" & still hasn't decided on a day, saying Monday may be feasible. So I'm thinking I'm probably just gonna cut my losses & wait for her to confirm at this point (or not, which seems most likely)