Sounds scammerish, or worse.

Even if he’s sincere about his feelings, he hasn’t got much sense.

Some people do this because they’re bored with the wife, family and job. Romantic entertainment.

Some do it because they want a green card, and, no, she DOESN’T know where he lives.

Others do it for money. What seems a small amount to us may be life-changing in other places.

Still others have even darker intentions.

That said, I did meet my late husband on line. We emailed/texted for A YEAR before he asked “Can I come to meet you in person?”

I asked for photo ID and he sent it, along with a photo of his license plate and to my astonishment, one of his Social Security card. I scolded him about that. “Are you crazy?”

He said, “No. I’m just sure.”

But when we’re infatuated and hopeful about the future, we ignore every single red flag.

Anybody who rushes you into anything has a reason for it.

I share your concerns.

He is not genuine.

I think he is either a fraudster working from a false identity (possibly one of the criminal gang that launch huge numbers of "romance scams"), or he is looking for a woman to control for his own ego.

Either way he is dangerous.

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There is one way she might be able to establish more clearly just who she is conversing with. If she receives e-mails from him (it, they), and her e-mal service allows examining the sending address, tell her to do that. If the name and/or domain look odd, perhaps from overseas, this is likely a fraud attempt.

She really needs to get away from him. It has to be making her feel uncomfortable. You are not over thinking it at all.

Next time he goes off about that tell her to say “we need to talk. How do you feel about an open marriage because that’s what I want” 😉

Yeah that sounds very strange. Not sure whats going on there but I'd be running.

I agree seems very odd /off. Scam? Or is he a coercive control type?

I think I'd be out of there myself.

You're not overthinking. To me that guy appears to be a skilled scamster or something like that. Your friend may need help in getting away from him.

I think you are right to be concerned.

It's unanimous...even too weird for SW people?...it's gotta be weird...

Sorry for your friend...

It seems strange to me too. I wouldn't get married that soon.

The second paragraph in I am scared for her.

It's a bit strange honestly. How does your friend feel about it?

That's definitely love bombing and not a safe situation. He's going to flip the switch eventually.

If I were her?


Love bombing psycho.

It’s very strange. This is the only appropriate response from her:

You’re not overthinking it in the least
Does it all not seem off to her?
Holy crap, she needs to shut that all down..
Have they met up?

She needs to run

Run AWAY! Run FAST! Change your number and email.

If it doesn't feel right it isn't right.

very creepy guy!

that all in so quik? possible "love scammer"?

That’s a red flag for sure. Essentially it should be a good thing, that he’s serious and invested. But usually those types just love bomb women like that to get them hooked, then eventually end up being abusive a-holes and ruin their lives.

Serial killer vibes? At this point, the most serious conversation they should be having is how they like their coffee.

hes a fantasit, onlinei is bollox, she need to meet himin rl

yes,did they even have sex yet??