Ended communication with a woman due to some key red flags and some pink flags
Pink flag
- distance (several hundred km - just too far to be workable)
- dependency of her 17 y/o daughter who has some special needs that are very time and resource intensive.
- I kept feeling 'the ick' over how focused she is about 'feels'
- really difficult to find time to meet due to our existing life challenges around family, etc. (and my shiftwork pattern).
Red flag
- constant reference to previous partner (who she keeps comparing me too)
- obvious want of deep-pocketed man for financial support and a way to relocate
- behaving like she's trying to 'analyse' me like she's a human behavioural scientist
Lady is similar age, identifies as neuro-divergent like me, so making any sort of bond would be very difficult. But the distance, and constant reference/comparison to her previous partner made be keep feeling 'the ick'.
In the end I decided it'll be too hard to make it work so we both agreed to end things before there is any intimacy or deeper involvement.
I think it's the correct decision.
- distance (several hundred km - just too far to be workable)
- dependency of her 17 y/o daughter who has some special needs that are very time and resource intensive.
- I kept feeling 'the ick' over how focused she is about 'feels'
- really difficult to find time to meet due to our existing life challenges around family, etc. (and my shiftwork pattern).
Red flag
- constant reference to previous partner (who she keeps comparing me too)
- obvious want of deep-pocketed man for financial support and a way to relocate
- behaving like she's trying to 'analyse' me like she's a human behavioural scientist
Lady is similar age, identifies as neuro-divergent like me, so making any sort of bond would be very difficult. But the distance, and constant reference/comparison to her previous partner made be keep feeling 'the ick'.
In the end I decided it'll be too hard to make it work so we both agreed to end things before there is any intimacy or deeper involvement.
I think it's the correct decision.
