Is something wrong with me?

I have a confession. I am in my late 30’s but never had a boyfriend or serious relationship. I don’t know, maybe the problem is me. I had strict parents growing up so I wasn’t allowed to date. I couldn’t invite people over or go to a friend’s house. Yes it truly sucked. By the time I went off to college in my early 20’s, most guys were looking for a fling or something casual, not a serious relationship. After I finished college I focused more on advancing my career and now here I am. I’m educated, with my own car, living in my own space but still single and it kills me. I’d love so much to be in a serious relationship, get married and live that perfect fairytale life. But I just can’t seem to shake the feeling that it will just never happen for me. I don’t usually suffer from anxiety but I am also an INTP/Melancholic so it is extremely difficult for me to approach someone (as I always anticipate rejection). I’ve been told in the past that I’m too sensitive, (guess I’ve been around the wrong personalities which has caused me to find it even harder to open up to someone. Any recommendations on what I should/could do? Sorry for the long post.

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riseofthemachine · 41-45, M

I'm single 16 years now .
I'd like a relationship but what I don't like is the pain that comes with relationships .
You know yourself ( don't afraid of rejection )
There's a same and it says " Rejection is God's protection " .
You"ll find someone if you want someone.
And also it's a lot easier for women to find someone than men .
The moral of the story is " don't leave your thinking stop you ' cause that's the main problem is your thinking .
It's nothing to do with your family being strict .
If they we're strict that's a good thing cause look how far you came educational.
The missing piece for you now is to trust yourself that you find someone if you want someone .
I'll give you an example about thinking .........
I went away on a vacation. It was supposed to be for a years . I lasted 5 days ,back in 2009 and I never went travelling since . It's nothing to do with the situation I was in .
What stopped me for the last 16 years was my thinking .
What I'm saying is that our thinking can stop us for getting things that's makes you happy and that's why I'm coming back to your parents. It has nothing to do with that .
Your an adult now . You"ll find someone