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How can my "ugly" friend improve his appearance to have better success with women?

Before you say anything, yes, I did have clear and explicit permission from him to use this photo, and it was him in fact that told me to use his picture online to see what advice I could get for him.

But he's really insecure about being "ugly." And honeslty, despite beauty being in the eye of the beholder and everything, I unfortunately don't disagree. He's bald with a big red nose, and you may think he looks old but believe it or not he's only 34 years old. He just has a history of taking zero care of his body since childhood (including neglectful parents) and doing tons of drugs, eating tons of junk food, terrible hygiene, and never exercising.

The worst part though for me is his personality. He practically does nothing productive with his time. He claims to be "temporarily unemployed" but he's been unemployed for over 5 years now. He also keeps posting his selfies all over 4chan, and people on there have been making fun of him for over a decade and yet he keeps on posting. And he's terrible at talking to girls as well. He literally starts all conversations with women with "heyyyyy prettyy gurrrlll! I'm Ceciiiiil!"

But he refuses to change his personality and wants to work only on his appearance. And so here I am making this post asking you guys for advice.
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Nevertooold · 56-60, M
Maybe if you didn't treat him like some ugly animal he would be open to some things..,..He's a human....Try treating him as an adult human....you may be surprised...Good luck
EzraIsShy76028 · 22-25
@Nevertooold Seems you misunderstood, or perhaps my fault for not explaining things clearly. But he himself calls himself ugly all the time. And when I tried saying he's not ugly in the past he didn't listen to me. So eventually I was just like "you're right, you're not gonna listen to me anyway, so you're right, you're ugly." And he constantly cries about being ugly and yet does nothing to improve his appearance.

I do try treating him like an adult, but yet he refuses to take my advices or anyone else's. He complains and complains and yet refuses to make any changes. At age 34 he definitely should know better. But he acts like an immature 14 year old instead.