I think i am repelling positive/good men
It's like only bad men or emotionally unavailable men coming in my life and no good men. I sometimes feel i am repelling good men, how can i attrcat good men and stop repelling them?
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Mamapolo2016 · F
The most important part of romance is patience, in my opinion. I know there are cultures that think differently.
It’s a common saying, that the best way to find love is to not look for it. Just go out and be who you are until the right person sits down beside you at the airport or Starbucks.
It has been my experience that my headset is vital. We telegraph who we are by body language and speech. If we are anxious or timid, people, including men, can read it.
When romance hits, it’s a flash fire, and compelling. What you are seeking is a steady strong furnace. You have to go through a winter before you know it’s reliable.
When you know the person is not for you, move on.
Best of luck.
It’s a common saying, that the best way to find love is to not look for it. Just go out and be who you are until the right person sits down beside you at the airport or Starbucks.
It has been my experience that my headset is vital. We telegraph who we are by body language and speech. If we are anxious or timid, people, including men, can read it.
When romance hits, it’s a flash fire, and compelling. What you are seeking is a steady strong furnace. You have to go through a winter before you know it’s reliable.
When you know the person is not for you, move on.
Best of luck.
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@Mamapolo2016 i think i am really bad at identifying good and bad men, many bad men pretend to be good while they have bad intentions
Mamapolo2016 · F
@sahi81 Too true. Women do it too.
First, you CAN’T tell a book by its cover. You have to give it some time. We reveal who we are, but the people who love us see the good. They ignore blatant warning signs. They forgive bad behavior. They coddle us.
To say there were unmistakable warning signs before I married my unsuitable partner is an understatement. I blissfully ignored them. Love will conquer all! (It won’t.)
There are a few positive signs too.
1. He asks about YOU. About your day. About your needs and wants. He actually acts on what you express. Not always - the relationship should be somewhere around 50-50.
2. If he says he’ll call, he does.
3. He wants to meet the other people you love.
4. You usually know where he can be found if you need him.
5. He introduces you to his friends and family. They know him, although you don’t yet. His interaction with them can be telling.
6. He doesn’t use violence or threats of violence to control you. Ever.
And he does those things reliably for months and years. That’s where patience comes in.
First, you CAN’T tell a book by its cover. You have to give it some time. We reveal who we are, but the people who love us see the good. They ignore blatant warning signs. They forgive bad behavior. They coddle us.
To say there were unmistakable warning signs before I married my unsuitable partner is an understatement. I blissfully ignored them. Love will conquer all! (It won’t.)
There are a few positive signs too.
1. He asks about YOU. About your day. About your needs and wants. He actually acts on what you express. Not always - the relationship should be somewhere around 50-50.
2. If he says he’ll call, he does.
3. He wants to meet the other people you love.
4. You usually know where he can be found if you need him.
5. He introduces you to his friends and family. They know him, although you don’t yet. His interaction with them can be telling.
6. He doesn’t use violence or threats of violence to control you. Ever.
And he does those things reliably for months and years. That’s where patience comes in.
SomeMichGuy · M
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SomeMichGuy · M
@sahi81 I'm not sure about "as much as possible", but being open that you are a human beingn and--as such--have weaknesses as well as strengths...that's fine.
I'd say a better phrase is:
Just be yourself; if you put on a dating persona and a guy falls in love with "her", that doesn't help YOU.
I'd say a better phrase is:
Just be yourself; if you put on a dating persona and a guy falls in love with "her", that doesn't help YOU.
littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M
You don't know the difference. So even if a good man comes into your life you will repel telling them that you are not interested in making making friends or etc. You need to move to a different city and make account on Bharat matrimony. Fill in all details you want and get a husband.
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@littlepuppywantanewlife i agree about my trust issues
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@littlepuppywantanewlife how to know the difference? any advice?
littlepuppywantanewlife · 31-35, M
@sahi81 start making friends. I am not asking you to do party. Make good friends and get new hobbies
masterofyou · 70-79, M
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@masterofyou why???
masterofyou · 70-79, M
@sahi81 you have too many negatives against men... Men in your eyes believe men are terrible beings but yes they do have a mere superiority over women but that's what masculinity is all about....
What are your intentions in attracting them? For what? Marriage?
SinlessOnslaught · 26-30, M
It sounds like you've had a bad experience with men in general and I'm sorry to hear that.
sahi81 · 22-25, FNew
@SinlessOnslaught i have many bad experiences with men lol.... only some r good but couldn't trust them much due to bad experiencs
masterofyou · 70-79, M
What do you call bad men??