I’m 36 and have never been in a romantic relationship before

Recently I discovered that I’m on the autism spectrum and that some of the symptoms of autism might be major contributors to the difficulties I’ve met with in attempting to attract a partner. Does anyone know of any resources or advice for someone in my situation who’s looking to attract a partner for the first time after about two decades of nothing but failure?

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rfatoday · 61-69, M

Like others have said in essence, try to locate autism spectrum support groups locally or online. At least there you may find ladies who understand and have similar issues. I know "autism spectrum disorder" represents a wide range of clinical presentations, but it seems a good starting point. If you meet someone you may like, have zero expectations. For example, if you want to approach her for a date, be okay inside if she says no. Expectations really hurt me years ago. If things didn't go the way I wanted or liked, I'd mentally beat myself up. Which in turn would be self-defeating because I was not being the real me when I'd meet someone else.

Lots of men have had few romantic relationships. Not a big deal. It will happen for you when it's supposed to. Provided we get ourselves out there. Good luck!