Deal breakers in dating

@JaneCas I have a longer list of things I look for in a man than I do deal breakers. He's not going to be "perfect" (whatever perfect is) and nor do I want him to be.

I am a work in progress myself - and it helps that he is, too... at least he can understand that there are times when I might need my space or I need to rest in bed.

Let's say I have this huge list of what I want in a relationship... how will it benefit me??? Many people don't like my about me and message intro here on SW because I tell them straight how I expect them to behave towards me - so it'd be the same if I were looking for a relationship.

It could also push away what could be your dream partner because you rejected them out with your deal breakers.

If you're open to working with your man/woman, then you stand a greater chance of getting more approaching you and they're likely to be more open with you because you accept them for who they are.

When you look at the balance of things, only you can decide if your 2 deal breakers are better than having 52 for you. You know you - stay true to yourself and don't let others tell you otherwise.

@HootyTheNightOwl thank you! I appreciate your response. 😊Well my deal breakers I think pretty important for long term wise, for example, one of my two dealbreaker is I am a Christian and I would not date someone who was an atheist or Buddhist or things like that. Maybe for short relationships it would be fine. But I am thinking more long term. I

@JaneCas That makes sense - especially if things like going to church, fasting (if applicable) and celebrating special holidays is important to you.

I'm not saying that it will happen, but, it's possible that someone of a different faith might not like you doing these things.

I became Catholic a few years back now and I had issues with my atheist mother refusing to accept that an hour or so in church once a week was good for me. I did everything that was asked of me... mostly, no "preaching" around family members - but she still wasn't happy because that hour I spent at Mass was an hour I could have spent visiting her, so, I stopped attending church and never went back after her death.

I still have my three rosaries and two boxes, though I've almost given up on the idea of getting the music box to this set out of the house when the time comes for me to leave here.


I keep all three rosaries together in a small bag that's easy to grab when the time comes.

@Theyitis Yes, I am a Christian so they must at least believe there’s a God even if they don’t go to church or read the Bible all the time. And the second one is, I am open to kids but not 100 percent so if someone has”wants kids” i automatically swipe left. I will swipe right one someone who says “they are open to kids”

@SomeMichGuy I don't know if their motive is staying single. I just meant they want the perfect relationship with no effort, or indeed nothing at all if any effort is needed otherwise.

@NerdyPotato Yes, I think it can go two ways.

But they think perfection will just fall in their lap because they demand it.

@SomeMichGuy that's a better summary of what I meant indeed.