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How do I get out of this?

There's a musical coming to a city near me that I want to see, and I got two tickets to see it. I asked this girl I met on a dating app that said she only wanted to be "friends" because she was "too busy" to manage a relationship, and she said yes. I only asked her because she's the only other person I knew that was into that stuff. She also initially said she didn't want to go until I told her I found a deal for cheaper tickets. I also told her not to worry about the cost of the tickets (just because I didn't want to go alone) but she insisted to pay me and venmoed me for the second ticket. This was like a week ago. The show is in three weeks. She also said she had seen the show before but wouldn't mind seeing it again with me.

Now I'm seeing someone new that's also into that stuff and kinda feel like going to the musical together would be a great bonding experience for our budding thing lol. Except now I already made plans with the other girl lol. Would it be bad to cancel on the first girl (who doesn't even really talk to me so tbh I'm less excited about going with her) or do I suck it up and go with her? If not, how can I cancel respectfully and keep her as a friend? I've moved on from wanting to date her but still think she's interesting enough to be friends with.
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Is she really your friend to start with if she doesn't talk to you?
somedude15 · 26-30, M
@NerdyPotato good point, I guess she isn't huh. I just didn't block/unfollow her after she said she wanted to be "just friends" because I still thought she was interesting and didn't want to seem butthurt. But yeah I guess since we don't even talk we're not friends
@somedude15 then what do you have to lose by being honest?
REMsleep · 41-45, F
@NerdyPotato Exactly
@somedude15 of course don't just tell her you're going with somebody else. She has paid for her ticket and was invited first, so she has the right to go. But asking if you can have it back, and she her money of course, if she was only planning to go as a favor to you, is an option.
somedude15 · 26-30, M
@NerdyPotato how would you phrase it?
@somedude15 if I were you, I'd phrase it like you. Your own words are better than anyone else's.
somedude15 · 26-30, M
@NerdyPotato yeah you're right. I'm just trying not to sound tacky. How does this sound?

"Hey ***, I was talking about my plans to see the musical with another of my friends and they surprisingly had never seen it before and really wanted to come with me. They can get their own ticket at regular prices but I wanted to ask if you'd mind if they took the one we bought (and I sent you back the money) since you've already seen it before. And if you still want to go no worries, I'll just let them know that!
somedude15 · 26-30, M
@NerdyPotato I kinda lied here lol but still
@somedude15 I'm no communications expert, so don't blame me if it doesn't work out, but it sounds good to me. Casual, giving her a choice. 👍