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How do I get out of this?

There's a musical coming to a city near me that I want to see, and I got two tickets to see it. I asked this girl I met on a dating app that said she only wanted to be "friends" because she was "too busy" to manage a relationship, and she said yes. I only asked her because she's the only other person I knew that was into that stuff. She also initially said she didn't want to go until I told her I found a deal for cheaper tickets. I also told her not to worry about the cost of the tickets (just because I didn't want to go alone) but she insisted to pay me and venmoed me for the second ticket. This was like a week ago. The show is in three weeks. She also said she had seen the show before but wouldn't mind seeing it again with me.

Now I'm seeing someone new that's also into that stuff and kinda feel like going to the musical together would be a great bonding experience for our budding thing lol. Except now I already made plans with the other girl lol. Would it be bad to cancel on the first girl (who doesn't even really talk to me so tbh I'm less excited about going with her) or do I suck it up and go with her? If not, how can I cancel respectfully and keep her as a friend? I've moved on from wanting to date her but still think she's interesting enough to be friends with.
She paid for her ticket... suck it up and go with her.

If you want to go with the other girl, take her another night or take her to see something else.
REMsleep · 41-45, F
Lesson 1: Do not offer to pay for tickets or what otherwise would be a date type activity with any girl that has previously rejected you. She isn't too busy for a relationship. You didn't force her onto that dating site. She signed up because she has time to date. That was just a soft excuse to let you down gently.
She offered to pay because she doesn't want to owe you anything to keep the lines clear between you.
You state that she doesn't even talk to you soooooo she is not your friend.
Trust me you will get better results from women if you are a little less compliant.

Did she already pay for her ticket? If so I'd suck it up and go with her.
If she didn't pay for her ticket yet then I'd cancel with her. No love lost trust me you lose nothing.
somedude15 · 26-30, M
@REMsleep yes she sent me the money and I can send it back but idk if that'll be a tacky thing to do. But tbh I'm fine with never speaking to her again
Is she really your friend to start with if she doesn't talk to you?
somedude15 · 26-30, M
@NerdyPotato yeah you're right. I'm just trying not to sound tacky. How does this sound?

"Hey ***, I was talking about my plans to see the musical with another of my friends and they surprisingly had never seen it before and really wanted to come with me. They can get their own ticket at regular prices but I wanted to ask if you'd mind if they took the one we bought (and I sent you back the money) since you've already seen it before. And if you still want to go no worries, I'll just let them know that!
somedude15 · 26-30, M
@NerdyPotato I kinda lied here lol but still
@somedude15 I'm no communications expert, so don't blame me if it doesn't work out, but it sounds good to me. Casual, giving her a choice. 👍

 
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